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Small/average sized breasts.

Natural eyebrows and hairline. Actually most body hair on females is nowhere near as bad as my "culture" treats it. The few things I might happen to agree with are far outweighed by her feeling more comfortable in her own body. I understand special cases like PCOS and stuff like that, but for the most part in my opinion, most women are encouraged to go too far with hair removal.

I like small mousy looking people with big ears.

I like curvy/chubby women. I'm particularly turned on by a bit of a tummy.

I like snaggle teeth and overbites. Bump on nose bridge can be attractive. Five-heads aren't a bad thing. Honestly, probably a lot of things.

Apparently, noses.

I'm usually more attracted to women with prominent noses than other types. Not to the exclusion of any other varieties, it isn't a dealbreaker. But on average, women that get nose jobs end up being less attractive to me, which is what made me aware of the preference. So I started paying attention to that initial impression I get that triggers attraction and degree of attraction.

What it came down to is that I value a face that's distinctive, and a prominent nose is the biggest factor in that when that unfiltered reaction is in play.

Jennifer Grey was the actress that made me aware of it.

But, it's enough of an unconscious preference that the little signals that ping "attraction" will register even when other features aren't as conventionally "pretty".

I have a theory about why. It's the same reason I tend to react very strongly to scent and voice with partners. Back when I was young, my vision was horrible, and it wasn't discovered until long after it should have been. So, I think that things that stood out in an otherwise blurry blob of a face helped me recognize people, and thus the girls I could recognize were what I came to think of as pretty.

Bigger eyes, bigger noses, very full lips, and bigger hair styles. Though the hair thing faded after I got glasses lol. But, out of all that, bigger noses don't get as much love by most people.

i tend to be attracted to people who are not driven by the compulsion to prove themselves. to people who know their worth is not defined by what they produce. and especially to people who are happy and content with what they already have. balance is key.

alas.

Having a penis. Though, it’s only the conservatives who consider that unattractive, and based on how popular that kind of porn is in the deep south, they’re lying about it anyway.

I've always found blemishes on the skin to be attractive for some reason. Like it shows their humanity or something.

For women: I like women a bit older than me, I like plus sized women, I like slightly deeper voices, I like flat women, I like a chubby uhhh "mons pubis", I like muscle women, I like pubic hair. There are so many, often contradictory, things I like that are broadly considered imperfections. Frankly, I just like women who aren't the typical beauty standard.

For men: I like anything that softens them, makes them seem less aggressive. Some of these are pretty common (e.g., "twinks") but I also like chubby men, short men, long hair and so on. It's less broad than things I'm into with women and has a definite reason rather than being a seemingly random assortment of things.

That's just physically as well. Wealth is a turn off, being really into fitness is a turn off, overly ambitious is a turn off (particularly for work). I like cozy introverts who just want to be content with life.

I like body hair and big/hooked noses on all genders

Hairy armpits on women are the best.

monobrows and big ears

Big dark circles under eyes, even more so when the eyes look “too big”.

I like older women, like middle aged

Not being super skinny. I know thats broad, but when 99% of models and actresses are just similar looking skinny white women...

It's not "unattractive", but I know belly attraction is uncommon, especially as a straight woman, especially an asexual one. It's more like one of those things where it's less entirely a turn-on and more like a "cute" thing, but there's nothing else about a guy I would look for when it comes to their physical properties.

Also, not speaking for me, but a friend of mine used to really have it in for people with speech impediments, even though the person he ended up with doesn't have one. He says it has an air of innocence and that "accents are overrated if nobody is going to appreciate things like lisps", but it's like watching Brock.

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Pointy chins. I have no idea where it came from or why.