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Too much to ask, pure fantasy
"Hi nice to meet you I'm your soulmate and future wife and I'm going to fix you and we'll help fix the world together"
(i mean if someone said that exact phrase to me I'd probably run screaming lol. But you know.)
- "Thank you"
- "My bad"
- "I am not familiar with the subject so I have no opinion on it"
On point number 3, I once got dunked on for saying that I didn't know anything about the subject at hand when asked. The other person told me "Well, that's just a cop out. Just make something up!"
edit: clarification
Catalyst
I petition to bring back regular use of Kerfuffle.
I'll sign that petition no doubt
"Wow isn't life great since we went to the 3 day working week!"
"Bosom". Religious nuts shouldn't have a monopoly on the word. Also, it makes me chuckle every time.
It's like the wholesome counterpart to "boob." Both kinda sound like what they describe, but "bosom" feels classy.
not hear, but read…see?: aluminium, your is possessive and you’re is you are (IT’S NOT THAT HARD IF YOU ARE FLUENT IN ENGLISH), it’s vs its (NOT THAT HARD EITHER FOR NATIVE SPEAKERS)
"lambasts" or "pillories" instead of "slams" in news headlines
How about “threw Mankind off Hell In A Cell, and plummeted 16 ft through an announcer's table” instead of “slams”
lambasts
Lambastes?
"proselytize"
Only came across the word recently.
Verisimilitude. It's just nice.
It's a good word! How would you use it in a sentence?
I'm less high now!
I normally use it when talking about miniatures and toy train setups.
"The miniature painted conifers with bits of snow really have the scene verisimilitude"
I could still be very wrong.
The general meaning is the appearance of truth or validity.
But I usually use it to describe something that is "believable" even if the underlying premise is not. So a fantasy story that pays close attention to detail and is highly consistent might be described as having versimilitude. On the other hand, a story where the characters make out-of-character choices might be lacking versimilitude, even if there are no overtly "fictional" elements to the story.
That's usually how I've heard it used, not sure if it's the "main" usage though.
Poorly! As I'm currently high and do not feel confident using it correctly!
Looks cool though!
The novelist's meticulous attention to historical detail—from the cadence of 19th-century dialogue to the texture of hand-stitched corsets—lent her story an uncanny verisimilitude, making even the most outlandish plot twists feel hauntingly plausible.
I've always been partial to there- and where-compounds (thereupon, therefrom, wherein, etc.).
- cerulean is a word that just has so much more class and gravitas than "sky blue"
- gravitas is a word that simply has no other word providing such ... well, gravitas (dignity, solemnity, etc.)
- charlatan is a word we need to apply every time a politician or a CEO or such speaks
- the Holy Triad: whence, whither, wherefore
- nubivagant is a word that doesn't mean anything like what it looks and sounds like
- niggardly is another word that doesn't mean anything like what it looks and sounds like (and can get you fired if you have uneducated colleagues)
- frippery is just fun to say
I would also like to see some further German words imported into English like we imported "Schadenfreude":
- Backpfeifengesicht as an alternative for 'a punchable face'
- Fremdschämen to express being embarrassed for someone who's done something cringe
- Weltschmerz is a word I'll let you look up so you can see how it might be super-appropriate for this day and age
There's also a Chinese word I'd like to bring into English and make common:
- 三观 (sānguān) which is pronounced kinda/sorta "san gwun", means literally "three views", and means idiomatically the alignment (or lack thereof) of worldviews, values, and ethics between individuals
"cerulean is a blue dream." -- x-files
Call it cheesy, but people need to tell each other "I love you" more often.
"I don't know."
If we were honest, it's the thing we should all be saying and hearing all day long. But it's not. Quite the opposite, it's among the rarest. Instead, people are shooting their certainties at one another, relentlessly.
Not knowing something or not having an opinion on a question is not an issue. It's to be expected, even if we were all geniuses (I'm certainly not one). Not doing the work to inform oneself could potentially be an issue but should not be as long we don't pretend otherwise. It's when one pretends to know, based on what one has heard someone else say, or because one wants to push a specific narrative that suits them, that shit starts hitting the fan. That's when living together turn into the stinking shit hole it has turned into in which lies are fine (when they're not adored) and facts have become suspicious if not dangerous.
Obviously, I don't know what I'm talking about.
No kings. United we stand. ✊
Good forenoon to you!
Also, I'm totally down with referring to the days of the Week by their etymological roots. Happy Day of Thor to you!
Surely you mean Star Period 4?
Ooooh I'm 100% behind using the etymological roots. Good call!
May tomorrow you have an excellent Day of Venus.
Why thank you 😊
Gadzooks. It's just such a fun phrase.
I love it! I'm also pretty fond of words like shenanigans and hijinks.
Ooooh those are good ones
Old english stuff like thy or thou. Nothing practical, just for the lol.
Perchance.
"I disagre, but you know what? That's fine, let's drop the subject and have a drink or whatever!"
"NO! I will destroy you, and wipe your seed from this earth unless you agree that Batman Begins had some pacing issues at the end of act 1!
For me, the small politeness words are not "thank you", "sorry", or "good morning". They're "maybe", "I think", "perhaps", "I don't know". I respect honest doubt way, way more than I respect dishonest = rushed certainty, and I wish I saw more of that.
Prestige TV
Does just broader vocabulary count? Maybe it's just a rule that everyone sits down with a dictionary every couple of weeks for 30 minutes just opening it to a random page.
Also, more latin phrases. That's cool shit.
I care about you but not just said to me but to between other people.
Not a particular phrase, but I'd like if people asked more questions, even if they sound like stupid questions, than to assume the answer.
Crocodile done deal
Ever since reading it in my kids' Bluey book: bumblenuts (context is, "g'day, bumblenuts!" following an introduction)