beliquititious

Ominous.

Validation is one of the things on maslow's hierarchy of needs. It's essential for people to feel belonging and connection with other humans. We're hardwired for it and the lack of it leads to poor outcomes almost always.

Social media is not a good source of validation. If social media were limited to just the people you knew and communicated with at least semi-regularly it would be very useful for receiving validation. However once you branch out to people you don't know, healthy validation becomes more difficult. It also introduces a number of unhelpful facsimiles of validation (parasocial relationships, internet points).

100,000 likes/views/upvotes/retweets does not replace respect and acceptance from your peers for your emotional wellbeing, it's not even a good substitute.

No social media platform has figured it out yet, but that doesn't mean it's not possible to build one that could be a good source of validation. It's unlikely though so long as roi is important to the people that build social networks.

Pet supplies for animals you don't have. Things that don't exist but sound like things you might find at a grocery store, like pot slippers from the kitchen utensils, vegan mangos, aged vermhölsterdoif cheese, or barkley salt. Rare spices the stores your partner shops at do not sell. I get a kick out of being macabre so long pork, stray child. Ingredients your partner hates. Confusing typos.

Might as well start from scratch at that point.

Aw half the fun of linux is all the weird janky software some nerds felt strongly enough about to release.

Npp can be replaced by several different linux tools. You just have to like using the terminal a bit. Personally I get it. I know awk and sed and all those crunchy tools the olds made exist, but it's not a crime to have it all in one place in a gui. That said it npp 1000% works under wine. Sublime Text has a linux version and all the plugins you could ever want if you're willing to learn new ways of doing stuff you've already figured out. Vscodium is also a decent npp replacement. It's fast, has a cli, and a great plugin ecosystem.

Excel is all hype. Unless you're a data analyst or numbers nerd LibreOffice Calc has all the things. It's not as performant as excel with large datasets, but it has formulas, pivot tables (though somewhat weird), and macros. It's just ugly installed from the debian repo. Also if you're paying for office you can probably still use excel in the browser.

OneDrive sucks, unless you are committed to the Microsoft ecosystem. If you find a suitable replacement for excel, you could always cancel your office subscription and setup a nextcloud instance. You can have it all hosted for you through nextcloud and they have web based office tools using LibreOffice. Their syncing app works on everything so you've got options. Or you can try to self-host it. I have a raspberry pi with an external hard drive attached running nextcloud, and a vpn. Reasonably stable, if slow.

I hope that outside of Visual Studio, you can completely free yourself of the windows ecosystem.

That's not a retrofit either. With a multi tool those can be removed with a few bolts. The ones on that bench are single mold cast iron. You'd need an angle grinder to remove those, not that any law abiding good citizen would.

So dumb. They could have spent the extra money helping the people they don't want sleeping on benches not sleep on benches. Most people probably agree, just not in their backyard or with their tax dollars. The amount of work they're willing to put in not to help someone is absolutely astounding.

The only hard requirements I have for a partner are that they are attracted to me and have reasonable hygiene practices. It's a bonus if they're a degenerate kinkster or are willing and able to deal with a half-feral, half-crazy, cat lady for any real length of time. But I also am totally fine with that person bouncing because that's a lot.

I am flabbergasted. Who would have thought that a man with decades long ties to Russia, who's met with and spoke highly of Putin, who had russian spies crawling all over his first presidential campaign, who's backed by russian oligarch money, would say such a silly thing about Ukraine.

They're planning an offensive that has moscow scared enough they are rattling their nuclear sabers. Seems like a poorly thought out move for a "destroyed" country and that their hegemonic buddies would advise them against rather than helping them tool up for the fight.

Jeez, you don't need the gun. I would have come willingly if you'd mentioned the numbers stations. Watching some boring Netflix movie kinda sounded lame anyway. Here's an edible, where are your headphones?

The most important skill for driving is learning to observe your surroundings calmly, but alertly. The things you mentioned as distractions are the things you need to be paying attention to because those are the things you must navigate around.

It's easy to get worked up about all the things demanding your attention. A lot can go wrong while driving, from road hazards, to accidents, to traffic, to mechanical problems with your vehicle. My advice, take it at your own pace. It's a speed limit, not a speed requirement. Highways and some types of special roads have minimum speeds, but the worst that happens if you drive slow enough to feel comfortable behind the wheel is some asshole who is in a hurry is grumpy.

It just takes time and practice, just relax and keep your eyes on the road.

Omg, so many opportunities for evil:

• retrieve earplugs from purse, put them in, press the button, hand the staff a $5 cash tip and a pair of earplugs.
• loiter outside offering pairs of earplugs to anyone entering the business
• call the business, pose as a vendor so I get transferred to the manager, and play a recording of the sound.
• leave fake reviews claiming the employees are on a covert malicious compliance strike and to show solidarity everyone should push no-tip.
• before hitting the button ask to speak to the manager and push no tip while making eye contact with them.

The real problem is the employee who didn't create the policy would generally be the person subjected to any mischief so it'd lose its fun about the time the manager barred me from coming back the fourth time I no-tip stared them down.

Agreed, but like how do you fix it? Moving is expensive and difficult the farther away from your starting point you go. That's something that has to be prioritized and even then, it's not always attainable.

Without at least some economic privilege and luck, it's not an option for most people. Certainly there are a group of people who would like to move and cannot because of reasons they find more compelling.

The people who would move but can't, aren't all of the people that don't move far from where they are born. It could be complacency, but it could also be contentedness. The people who stay put usually have much stronger social structures than people who move around, which is not nothing.