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solitaire. download the PySolFC app, it has a ton of variations.
Point at a perfectly functioning thing on my server, blow it up, relearn and fix the thing.
An IT friend of mine said “your home server should be like a zen garden…”. I was taken aback. Where else would I get to play with all the new shit I need to learn eventually? Surely not in production. And the home server is meant to serve up distractions not files.
I miss adderall.
I say this sitting beside four servers (including this instance) and one offsite server, you’re very much right. I enjoy homelabbing a lot. Probably my biggest hobby outside of research and gaming. That’s a fun way to think of it!
games? I found a civilization port for the phone and it sucked up a lot of time. Turn based so you can do it for a few minutes at a time: https://yairm210.itch.io/unciv
learn a language? duolingo and other apps are out there
Something slow or still and beautiful. I relate to wanting some of my time back whenever I get the smallest moment only to find that nothing is good enough to balance out the activity of rest of the day. Low stimulation activities are also not good enough and are boring but can be a much needed moment to get grounded. The best solution is to address what's really draining you and address it in a way that is not as draining for you. Far easier said than done, I know.
I do crosswords with an app that downloads a variety of them for free.
Can't relate. There is far more content to checkout then one can in one lifetime. Online and offline.
Hope you find your way to what you're seeking in life. Peace.
Reading on my e-reader (e-ink) or print books. Short periods - eg waiting for a kid to do something - are good for poetry. Meditating. Listening to music. Listening to podcasts. Sometimes I’ve taken out some paper and doodled while listening to something - which is really gratifying (even though I’m no Picasso). I also cook, which is wonderful. Or I go for a long walk. I’m also actively trying to fill my time with offline human engagement - volunteering twice a week and participating in a men’s group (a safe space for men to share their experiences).
Listen to music or watch a video, if you don't want to read?
I enjoy thinking, closing my eyes for a bit, or focusing on my breathing. Or I'll listen to the birds outside.
That’s a cute little webapp
Yep! I wish there was a way to narrow it down to broad topics, keywords, or geolocations, but I make myself go to it whenever I feel the urge to look at Instagram.
sit with your boredom for a bit, its healthy. or rather its unhealthy to be constantly bombarded with dopamine for nothing. enjoy your freedom from the screens.
Yeah, I've also found that just being bombarded with information all the time tenses me up. You might think of scrolling Lemmy or similar as "idling", but obviously your brain is still processing information when you do that.
Just rawdog it? No thanks
theres always drugs
You need to practice mindfulness. People should be OK with 10 minutes "staring into the void" and this is exactly the damage phones did to us
Edit: if I really want to look at my phone I open Wikipedia and check out the featured article or maybe the top read of the day list. It's not brain rot and it's not that fun either but it's time well spent
Mindfullness that is free
Guided meditations that are downloadable freely under CC BY-NC-SA.
mindfulness
I practice this alot during the day. It helps sometimes to disconnect from the world, and rejoin the server at another timepoint.
My goto device time killer is chess.com. It’s both educational and fun (assuming you don’t get your ass handed to you by a bot 😅).
FYI, lichess.org offers the same functionality (arguably better) for free. It's a crowd-funded, open-source non-profit, free of any ads or trackers.
Depends on the mood I'm in. Lately, I've been drawing in a tiny sketchbook I bought because a little sketchbook isn't very intimidating, and I can just do a few quick practice drawings or commit to a small but detailed piece for an hour.
Another thing I like to do is lay on my back with my headphones on, put on some music, and do literally nothing except stare at the ceiling and listen to all the little details of my favorite songs that I don't hear when I'm doing other stuff. It's my form of meditation since "normal" meditation has never worked for me personally.
If I am by myself and don’t want to engage my devices or read, I will try to do something productive, like clean or organize a space that is messy. When I lay with my kids as they go to bed, I usually stare into the void and reminisce about them when they were younger. Thankfully they now fall asleep super fast, so I don’t have to spend 10-20 minutes with them. When they were much younger, I’d fall asleep with them until my wife (at the time) would wake me for my bedtime.
Puzzles. Mini crosswords, wordle, etc.
Lately I've been enjoying playing Tetris DX on my Gameboy in my spare time. Keeps the brain busy and me away from my phone.
I go out with my dog and kick a ball around. We both use some energy. The day doesn't seem as slow any more. I actually have more energy to want to do something after. It's not much but it works.
I mean if Im having a laydown I just rest or nap. I don't really think of it as staring into the void. I love naps or taking it a easy for a bit. Moreso if I can do it outside with nice weather or even in a chair near an open window. Closing my eyes and listening to the birds and other bits of nature. Granted various noises can make that more of a no go if the timing is not right. Evening is even better with stars and the moon. If you start looking at deep breathing and mediation and having a few minutes is like gold. All that being said I like suduko and its a nice thing to do throughout a day a few mins at a time. I think tastes may vary with suduko though. Crosswords to but I have to be a bit desperate as I find they are more about me learning about the puzzlemaker than language really.
I wish I could learn to nap. I'm 30 and I've never been able to do it. Even a 14 hour flight there is no way I'm going to nod off even for a second
Yeah im one of those folks that can sleep anywhere and it does seem like some folks are easy sleepers and some not. My wife is not. I have to be careful about making noise if she is asleep as she will wake so easily. She has to get the dog to help to get me up.
For instance as I lay on the bed for 10-20 minutes waiting for my child to take their nap. Do I just stare into the void?
Do you have any time that you just let your mind wander, or be mindful of your life?
If I'm sitting somewhere waiting for something and I know it's just going to be 10ish minutes I'll usually just take in my environment or let my mind wander. I usually do that when driving home/to work as well. I'm paying attention to the road obviously lol but I don't have music or anything playing to occupy my mind I just use that time to think.
It's said to be fairly healthy to give yourself some time for whatever thoughts might come up.
For anyone with a noisy self destructive brain like mine appears to be, I got pretty good at mindfulness by walking the exact same route through the forest the exact same time every day and by just sort of casually observing the sights and smells which somehow became a mental association with "these thoughts are normal and OK" including those extremely dark ones if you know what I mean
Basically any time a bird is making a sound now I can just enter a meditative sort of state where thoughts just come and go regardless of how evil those thoughts are. I changed the angle of my skylight window in my bedroom so that it acoustically catches the sound of the birds on the tree to my east, and if you know birds they sort of go sit on the same branch and sing the same exact bullshit on a somehow perfect schedule
Lately going through the darkest period of my life. When I manage to finally fall asleep I wake up from horrifying nightmares but there is a bird that will sit on my skylight at exactly 4am and he gets me back to sleep ez and I stay asleep
I used to have a hummingbird couple that I chilled with on my balcony every sunset but unfortunately they passed away this year
Sleep deprived ramble but maybe there's some wisdom here
I didn't want to mention it in my initial comment, but that is something I need to work on too lol
Like 80% of the time my mind wanders it's usually some self deprecating nonsense, or extremely critical analysis of my failure in life. I figure it's stuff I need to process anyway, but the countless amount of times I call myself worthless trash probably isn't doing me any favors lol
Yeah it's really easy to lose the plot sometimes. Lately at my desk at work the words "worthless animal" and "I trusted you" are what the voice in my head won't stop shouting so I'm slowly picking up the pieces with the forest routine again and trying to get that noise to ease up a little bit
With info overload these days everyone struggles with this to some extent I do believe
Try origami.
Origami is always the answer.
I really enjoyed that as a child, even did a display in the library. Good recommendation
Do you count audio books as reading?
Find a new art, whether that’s creating or consuming. Or go to places where people hang out. Thrift shops/pawn shops can be fun to browse and sometimes you’ll find a hidden gem. Libraries are good too.
Chess puzzles
It's fun to try to pick up some American Sign Language. The best resource I'm aware of is: https://www.lifeprint.com/asl101/lessons/lessons.htm
Have a pet? Also aquariums are nice for staring at and relaxing
Most foreign language apps teach in bite sized pieces. I use Mango, but there are a bunch.
Writing, movies, video games, going on walks, cooking, depends on whatever I feel like.
If it's 15 minutes or more, I try to clean. Or I take a nap.
Read the Qur'an, or Ecclesiastes and reflect upon it if the former scares you. 😁
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