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Why?

What about paying a small fine which is a fraction of the profits you made from the crime?

I think that's just one notch above what's necessary.

An apology is a promise to [try to] do better next time.

You might fail again, but it doesn't mean you did the wrong thing, necessarily. But if you didn't even try, then 🖕🖕

Yeah, this kept tripping me up. I tried to be better but was always falling short and kept getting called out on promises not fulfilled. So I just stopped apologizing.

What I'm trying to say is, if a kid keeps failing to deliver on those promises constantly the parent might need to make a change in there. If not then all is dandy.

the way I've always put it is you have an idea of who you want to be and you have to work to be that person every day and it's okay to fall it's okay to fail but it's important that you keep trying.

I really like this perspective, thanks for sharing!

How do I become a better person and stop doing it? I find I am constantly making mistakes and bothering people. I think a solution to this would be to stop interacting with people as a whole so my presence isn't harming anyone, but that often isn't really feasible. Like at work I often have to interact with people to do my job for example. Occasionally I have thought about quitting to save people from me, but then I wouldn't know how to pay my bills. And idk that I'd want to be homeless.

A better father also wouldn't mix up "then" and "than"

Likewise, if someone genuinely apologizes and tries to make it right, stop shitting on them. Too many people view apologies as weakness and admitting fault for events that are sometimes out of your hands.

And you bet that forgiveness benefits you the most. It doesn't. If someone says sorry rarely, never changes, and you are taught to keep being compassionate... you are going to lose your ability to care about people. Better to stay alert, because that person will hurt you again.

think an apology is a 'get out of jail free'

Well, 'forgive' and 'forget' aren't the same. ;-)

On the contrary, one of my favorite meme mutations is the subversion of the intent of the original media or meme itself. Like the "can you please call HR", "hello human resources" one. Or bonehurtingjuice on the whole.

Oh you've met my "supervisor" Dave?

Why is "supervisor" in quotes? You'd know if you knew Dave.

I used to do that, but I stopped because I’m trying to be less of a people-pleasing doormat in general. Plus people don’t like empty apologies from company reps anyway.. it often led to more hostility. Apologizing also tends to give to the impression that they are right to be pissy whiny assholes, which isn’t something that should be encouraged at all.

Instead, I started saying “I very much understand your frustration; let’s see what we can do to get this resolved for you.” This makes you and the customer (psychologically) a team against the problem, and they are less likely to go off on you.

I definitely stole that tactic from car salespeople. And it works super well.

Nope. If buddy does the thing again, he gets a Hey Buddy talk to remind him he's over the line. You still have to be that proper friend as long as you can.

"I'm sorry, that's just the way I am!"