You can find people in a good mood, but not on Lemmy :P
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I'm in a good mood! :)
Been outside or watched the news lately. What’s there to be in a good mood about?
Idk, some leftist people (including minorities) are energized and motivated, so it’s important not to get stuck in some weird self-defeating trap. Political up and downs happen every generation. Don’t fall for the doomer BS, it’s important to keep following through with your personal goals and persevere. Find a community and volunteer, take care of each other.
Ultimately people should seek to close gaps with others, and try to find common ground, while acknowledging that there are some values which cannot be compromised, like sacrificing someone’s humanity and (personal/psychological) safety.
I mean, our new Dear Leader’s best oligarch buddy threw two very unambiguous Nazi salutes inside of five seconds during a nationally televised speech, and the vast majority of our media establishment is simply bending over backwards to give him the benefit of the doubt over his “awkward hand motion”. So yeah I’m in a bad fucking mood, because this shit is going to become de rigueur.
Im in a bad mood. I cant speak for others. But the world is fucked up.
The world it just ain't right, it keeps me up at night
The vibes on RedNote aren't so bad.
Our wealth is taken, no one does anything.
Our health is taken, no one does anything.
Our privacy is taken, no one does anything.
Our voices are taken, no one does anything.
Our citizenships are taken, no one does anything.
The reason is apathy, which feeds inability, which feeds apathy, which feeds inability to do anything.
When our lives are taken, most people will be both ultimately unable and unwilling to do anything.
Even if people don't know it outright, they feel it.
More than this, we feel a disappointment and a shame in our bones that can't be shaken off because it is that outrageous and primal fear of losing anything more that drives our inaction, and so we feel ourselves to be cowards at our very core.
This is what grinds away at our souls daily.
When you eventually decide to do something, you will see you are no longer apathetic or unable. Your fears will begin to heal, and in this way it will save your soul. This is the power of courage. It is something you have to make for yourself, but hope is what drives it and hope is given.
My coworker said to me today that all the news outside of the US is calling us Nazi America and this goes hand in hand with my own international news reading experience in the last day. I think everyone is acknowledging how dumb we look and how it affects them?
As someone from "outside the US": It isn't much better elsewhere. Italy has a fascist government, France is fucking up everything, Sweden has a governemnt depending on a borderline fascist party, the Netherlands has borderline fascists as part of the government, in Germany open fascists poll at 20% as the 2nd most popular party (elections are next month), Georgia is on the brink of civil war, Korea is in a utterly weird crisis/coup mode, in the middle east we are having a genocide happening, Sudan is in chaos, and so on and on.
On the bright side: Things appear to be somewhat okay in Spain and Belgium seems to have a somewhat half-working government.
Belgian here, we have a working Flemish and Wallon regional governement, as well as for the Flemish (is same as régional) and French and German speaking communities’ governements, but the Brussels region and federal aren’t getting anywhere. It’s only been 227 days tho… ETA: radical right was almost largest party in Flanders, and the ´libéral’ party in Wallonia won with a radical right agenda
Ah okay, I thought this Caretaker government turned into a somehat working stopgap. Okay, so, everyone, ignore my comment on Belgium. :)
Sounds about right. My wife has friends abroad that have been calling and asking if everything is alright, then start the questions of how we let this happen, why don't we do anything about it, etc. And I'll be honest, I do feel pretty helpless at the moment and very uneasy about the next period of time. I've been reading quite a bit about WWII and how Germany got into their situation, and almost too much if it parallels. Most of the population was sick of the status quo and wanted change, those who spoke up and tried pointing certain things out were labeled as worrying lunatics, and most of society was too ignorant to care until it was too late. I mean, what the hell is an individual to do? I could grab my rifle and take to the streets, and immediately get gunned down by cops, or start writing letters that will pretty just get me added to a list at this point.
Delete Facebook and hit the gym
It's the looming boiling point. More and more people understand things are going to come to a head Sooner Than Predicted™.
What we're seeing is grief, but multiplied by billions
Don't know why you were downvoted but you're absolutely right. We thought we were moving in the right direction, only to have the foundations blown out from under us.
Not downvoted, I just remove the default upvote which comes with posts/comments, it irks me.
To add to that, most of us didn't have a say in things. Boomers were kinda' the last generation who still had some controls at their disposal, but the system got completely out of our control from Gen X onward. We're just along for the ride as it's crumbling.
Edit: I've realised this may sound as though I'm pointing the blame at Boomers - I'm really not, I firmly believe the game was rigged from the start, it's not down to the average citizen. I was just trying to mark a shifting point.
Solidarity is the word, communists used and Americans banned. Without solidarity you get exactly the USA of today. A nation of egoists.
We're already well on our way (Romania here, hey-ho!), except we're going about it the exact way a couple of wise guys predicted back in the 1840s, so it's all falling apart in what would be a hilarious mess had I not been living through it for the past 30 years.
Edit (and a partial vent, because what the hell): we've been trying to emulate America ever since the Revolution. People were so (understandably) riled up against that Totalitarian hellscape wearing Socialist clothing, that they acted impulsively when deciding that Capitalist Democracy was the way. Add to that a bunch of politically active people who saw their easy cash grab, and a bit of American "encouragement," and it was inevitable.
Problem is, the Romanian people are very specifically themselves and, from what I've noticed, it's non-negotiable. We have a tendency of, while living and playing "the game," noticing that we're playing a game and so we sort of... meta-game with who we are - it's like we understand that society is a social act which we put on daily, that it's not us, on a very essential level. It's how we're taught to interact with the world even before we reach school age.
So while we've been trying to emulate other cultures, our own ingrained way of being and perceiving practically nullifies every bit of the external "flesh" which we desperately attempt to slap onto our bones. The wise guys I mentioned were known as Pașoptiști (Forty-Eighters would be the direct translation), a group of Romanian thinkers who had a central role in the political shiftings of the times (around 1848, whence the moniker).
They noticed that we're very plastic and curious as a culture, so we tend to absorb and incorporate foreign elements very easily - it's basically how the Romanian people have formed, we've been colonised over and over and over by pretty much everyone around, so we've developed to be flexible and marginally more open than most. However, they also noticed that we were drifting away from our tendency to comprehend the essence of what we were absorbing, favouring surface-level, purely aesthetic grafts, which they said would lead to a superficial societal culture and an inevitable failure - the Theory of Baseless Forms they called it (Teoria Formelor Fără Fond). I call it the Plastic Society, because it looks and feels like those cheap plastic knock-offs which we occasionally got as presents because they were cheaper and parents had the excuse of "well, how the hell was I supposed to know which is the REAL Spider-Man action figure?!"
And since Romanians are also very inertia-bound when left to our own devices, sadly, we've been diligently working at fulfilling that very prophecy. And I'm not complaining about our immense cultural permeability, I love who I've become because of it, but I am deeply saddened that people around here are no longer in contact with their essence and have fallen into believing this game is the only real thing around...
I've spent an astronomical amount of effort trying to remove as much depressing and outrage content from my feeds as possible. It's a sisyphian task with new things constantly slipping through the cracks. Which has made me mostly check out of all but a very small list of online spaces (and even then ads and other impossible to turn off 'recommendations' show up).
Outrage and depressing content fuels the web and it's best to recognize that. I've been a lot happier in my ignorance so far and would recommend it to anyone who's privileged enough to get away with it. It's not like being informed and engaged did fuck all for me in the last decade except give me a variety of mental issues.
It helps me to remember that informed voters 50-70 years ago were people who read the papers. Not even regularly, just those who knew what was going on in the world on a regular basis. It is not normal or healthy to have a constant barrage of news and input - and more than that it's not wrong to take a break from it. I had to learn that the hard way, that it's okay to take a break, it doesn't make you a bad person, that online is making you anxious. I folded in on myself, I had panic attacks, I couldn't function - and I got help. That help helped me realize that I don't have to shoulder this alone, I do not have to keep watching and listening. I'm informed, I know what's going on, I know what happened today - but that doesn't mean I'm going to turn my filters off either.
Yeah this is pretty much what I'm doing. My subscriptions are pretty much spaces about my interests that post positive content, and even then I filter out keywords for the bullshit that leaks in. Trying to spend more time reading books and unplugging from the internet. It still feels so hard to avoid the depressing bullshit though.
Rent is due in 11 days
God how I hate that I don't know if that's a diffuse model or by an actual artist. And we're just at the start of this!
Does matter tho?
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I keep having this and similar conversations with my wife and my friends and family .....
The majority of the world has always been in a bad mood because 90% of planet has always been poor, struggling, doesn't have enough, live in poverty, are hungry and are generally not happy.
The only difference is that us in the rich west have been recently affected and are facing a near future where our comfort and freedoms are going to be affected. We are starting to feel what the rest of the world has been feeling for a long, long time.
I say all this from the perspective of an Indigenous Canadian because I grew up poor and in a circumstance where me and my family were always made to feel less than the rest of the Canada.
The majority of the world has always been in a bad mood because 90% of planet has always been poor, struggling, doesn’t have enough, live in poverty, are hungry and are generally not happy.
On one hand, there is absolutely harsh struggle around the world for the vast majority of the world.
On the other hand, it's not as if most people are never in a good mood. Australia's state broadcaster (ABC) had a show where people in small or disadvantaged groups answer anonymous questions, and when it came to Sudanese Australian refugees, a few were saying that life in Sudan was often happier despite their material struggles. IIRC a main part was that they had a collective culture, in some places outside of the cities even a communal village culture, and where good fortune was cause for celebration. Some contrasted that with our largely individualist, money-centric culture here.
All that to say, money doesn't buy happiness, poverty doesn't guarantee sadness. Money and other resources really really help, but it's far from the whole picture.
True there are different types of poor and different types of people that see life as completely normal in any circumstances. We are all very adaptable creatures in whatever situation you place us in.
I grew up poor and I didn't know it for about the first 10/15 years of my life. We had enough food but it was just that ... enough ... we never had extras, no snacks, no guilty pleasures. I have good teeth because I didn't have the opportunity to eat a lot of junk food when I was younger which then led me to not really want it when I got older.
A lot of people around me were the same or similar ... it was just the way things were and we were more or less just happy and content with it all. It was normal so there was nothing too upsetting about it. Unfortunately, not all families were as capable as ours. In a community full of people in the same boat, about half couldn't do it and they fell into extreme poverty, addictions, bad health and just generally miserable lives. Then in my life, I started venturing out into the world and saw how wealthy everyone else was and I wanted to do the same but as a brown skinned Native person, the entire game was rigged against me ... I couldn't get schooling, I couldn't find work, I wasn't wanted, I wasn't needed and I was just different. I had to work really hard to get anything. People also claim that my school could have been paid for but it only works when you work the system and are connected to everyone and everything in that system ... I wasn't and I had to fight my own leadership, my own community and the non-Native government about everything in order to get anything done. I barely scraped by and found work on my own, made a bit of money and barely made it to become an adult. Of all the family and friends I grew up that were like me ... I think only about a quarter of us made it to something, a handful got post secondary and became lawyers and doctors or something important and the majority of the rest just ended up at home in varying levels of poverty from just getting by to literally living on the streets with small children. All in a situation where it is believed that we Native people get free money and have the world handed to us.
Money may not buy happiness but it sure helps and no matter how you frame it, poverty makes everything harder to do.
Certainly, there is a grim atmosphere across many social platforms. Mainly, the last few days from my anecdotal experience.
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We felt it last year. A building up of something. A sense of impending doom. Feelings of grim.
Things are worse especially with Trump making noises about using the American military to take resources. I don’t know who put the Panama canal and Greenland into his head but here we are. He is a guy who would do it too. Making us axis and not ally this go. That’s grim.
Pick and choose your outlets but don’t stick your head in the sand.
Not just you. Lots of negative feeling going around. If I could put a word to what I saw today, it would be "grim".
alienation
I feel that too. Doesn’t seem like anything good is coming anytime soon, and it’s -25 with 150k winds outside where I live.
Crabs in a bucket has collided with fuck around and find out about climate chamge. It only gets worse from here.
I'm fine.
Me too! People need to relax and stop doomscrolling so much.
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