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[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 hours ago

Roblox. Easiet pick of my life, Gods save us all

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 hours ago

When I was smaller, I was in a group that larped as nations, generally ww2 to copy hoi4 in Roblox

The issue was that it was extremely toxic and competitive when it was literally played as if it was multiplayer DND roleplaying

Because it was Roblox, it had a fuck load of underage people, racists, pedophiles, man children, doxxers, script kiddies and an extremely toxic community

I never interacted too close to it and instead stuck around the more educational parts where people discussed history itself, and I eventually got into discord nation roleplaying by creating my own server with people I knew

If you are curious, look up World Conquest in Roblox and browse the discord

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 hours ago

An invitation for a free lunch that turned out to be a multi level marketing presentation for timeshares.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 12 hours ago

I got way way too into fantasy football. I didn't have a dangerous amount of money invested in it (this was before DraftKings and the rise of addictive gambling apps), but I had like 5 teams and spent endless amounts of time trying to predict who would score points every week, reading stats and articles, and would watch football all day Sunday, and Monday and Thursday nights, as well as highlight shows and analysis.

At some point I just said "What am I doing?" and reclaimed my time. It felt great. No regerts. I don't even watch football anymore.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 21 hours ago

Jesus fandom, Catholic branch. In my defense they enrolled me before I was old enough to say no.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago

Doctor Who. It's a television show, you dorks. Stop making television shows part of your personality.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago

League of Legends. A little proud to say that it took a lot of time to remember I used to dump hours into that hellscape of a game.

Don't get me wrong, League can be fun and some champ designs are just chef's kiss. But at some point I just felt like I wasn't improving any more and got far less.endorphins And ofc, the community is salty and unable to understand that flaming=lower win chances. And I have to admit, I was easily irritated, too, writing messages to support faster than Karen can call the cops.

After quitting I realized it was either a way to distract myself from my problems or actually a form of punishing myself. I wouldn't be surprised if many other players were stuck with it for that reason, perpatuating the toxicity further.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Minecraft community. Love the game. Community turned into a bunch of toxic self-righteous a-holes. I had the displeasure of hosting a pvp server. Most people were alright but it only took a charismatic unemployed 20+ year old to rally half the server against the owner because we wouldn't ban their enemies from the server.

And the wider community that just whine that not every update is the Nether Update or Caves and Cliffs. Mojang messed up with 1.19, but it's not that big of a deal and they seemed to have learned their lesson. (except for chat reports... Eugh) The Minecraft movie actually looks fun, just had a bad first trailer. So what if it fails. It won't impact my enjoyment of the game. You can't really add too much onto Minecraft because you can easily screw up the game. For example, using fireworks to boost elytra was a small feature in a pretty minor update, but I think it was one of the worse decisions, as it ruined any incentive for transport infrastructure.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago) (1 children)

The Modded Minecraft community is a lot friendlier.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 hours ago

This was a modded server

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Lemmy. There's some good stuff here and also people who think you should die in a fire for being straight and white.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

Have you tried not being white, vanilla face?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 21 hours ago

I haven't seen that here yet but I don't dicuss those things much so maybe that's why.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Oh don't worry I'm trans / bi in the ~*wrong*~ ~*way*~ too. They just wanna be mad and will find a reason.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 hours ago

Well, you're obviously just a bigot since you call yourself bi. Real progressives don't use hateful terms like that. /s

(Note that I've actually seen people say stuff like this unironically).

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Its very unfortunate how judgmental and toxic the loud voices have become. I could see one responding to you "How dare you betray your people, you're not one of us, die die die"

Making threats just because someone doesn't check all the same boxes is insanity. I believe the whole point was to not have any box, yet here we are with new boxes to keep track of every week.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

Its very unfortunate how judgmental and toxic the loud voices have become.

Especially because they make enemies out of allies.

[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I was way into Musk when he was the face of Tesla and SpaceX. Less so when he started getting weird. Jumped ship before he started getting real Bond villainy.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 day ago

Yeah, I wish he’d go back to being the greenhouse on mars guy

[–] [email protected] 65 points 2 days ago (2 children)

i used to be a republican so

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Honest curious question: what made you change your mind?

[–] [email protected] 32 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Honest answer? When trump said “Take the guns away first, due process later.” I was a pretty big gun nut at the time and it felt like a slap in the face. Shortly afterwards I encountered a YouTube video that actually explained the science behind climate change in a way that made it obviously true and that I hadn’t encountered before. The conservative worldview is a house of cards, once you take out a couple the whole thing falls apart pretty quickly.

Now I’m a very progressive atheist and more than a little ashamed of my former self. Still like guns, but I keep that to myself

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 hours ago

I admire your ability for self reflection and openmindedness, brother. Cheers.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 hours ago

Jumped the horseshoe gap, nice!

[–] [email protected] 11 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Don’t spend much time being ashamed of your former self, instead, be proud of your current self.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 19 hours ago

Thanks! I’m perfectly capable of both. They say cringing at your former self is a sign of growth

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago

I don't personally have the emotional resiliency to own a gun right now but I'm VERY pro gun. We can't be letting the conservatives have all of them that's terrifying.

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[–] [email protected] 70 points 2 days ago (13 children)

Gaming. I've seen it get progressively worse and worse over time. Gamers are some of the most entitled and whiney people I've met.

Game puts out 58fps instead of 60? Trash. Throw it out. Start a media campaign about how shit the devs are at their jobs

Game is only just "fun" and isn't an absolute masterpiece like RDR2? It doesn't matter, since it isn't better than the literal best game ever made it's trash. There is zero middle ground. Burn an effigy!

Game sequel changes anything from the previous? Burn down their offices! Games shouldn't take risks! What do you mean all we have now are boring games from companies afraid to take risks?!

And we haven't even started with the freaking gatekeeping

Now I'm not defending game companies, god knows there's blame over there, but ffs I'm tired of gamers. I've been flamed over having opinions like enjoying a game.

For example. I liked Veilguard. I honestly did. It wasn't a perfect game, it wasn't a RDR2, but I enjoyed it and I found it a good value for the money, and I don't care that it wasn't like Origins. Watch the hate roll in folks.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago)

You've obviously never been a part of the stardew valley community. It's incredibly wholesome.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Gamers have become total suckers as well, and on the whole are not very good with their money. From always pre-ordering to season passes to oceans of memorabilia.

Hardware has especially suffered. There used to be a time when gaming attracted technical people and there were brilliant forums and in depth review sites for hardware. Now most of those are dead with only a couple good ones left because everyone figured out you can just slap RGB lights on your product and call it a day. Gamers will buy it.

Prices go up and up, quality goes down, control over the product goes down, improvements per generation go down. But man there's never been more flashy marketing and lights.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Gamers chairs are the best example of that. Some neon pleather on a piece of plywood and they slap $600 pricetag on it. Meanwhile a sturdy $300 mesh office chair will actually support you for hours a day for 10 years, but kids don't think it's cool

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 hour ago

Exactly. They'll be spending countless hours sitting in it, so does it look to the office chair for an ergonomic design and spiff it up a bit? No, how about a stiff race car seat that hugs you through all those turns you'll be taking... that makes sense.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

One thing that's gotten a lot worse is the hate for everything, I've unsubscribed from several of my formerly favourite YouTube gaming channels because they've gotten more and more about just hating on everything. Every game that isn't perfect gets dragged through the dirt and people love it and join in. And comments anywhere on the web about any game are generally 80% hate and pessimism. And if you dare to say you like whatever game the topic is about you'll get down voted and told you're an idiot and/or shill.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 22 hours ago

Complete same. Everyone I talk to who hates game X seems to have heard it from some shitty youtuber. "Well X person said it's not good and it's shit". Great, have you played it? Steam has a pretty great return policy, go try it for yourself.

They hardly ever do. They shit on something left and right while never actually trying it, and exactly that. It can be a decent game, but if it's not perfect it's just hot garbage. In another thread literally right now I'm being flamed for liking Veilguard. God forbid someone has an opinion they differ with on something as small as a video game.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago)

I crank up the graphics settings as high as I can get them while getting at least 20fps consistently. I do think some games are just badly optimized though.

I also liked the original state of Minecraft dungeons and even got the first DLC when it was on sale but then they turned it into a grindy season based thing with subscriptions, yet another program ruined by Microsoft.

Apart from this I don't really have any strong opinions about games and don't really get why people behave like that.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

100% This.

So steam has the little update ribbon for games in your library, and recently one popped up for The Outer Worlds in my feed. I thought it was odd since it's not a new game anymore so I checked it out and it was for some reason just the announcement for Outer Worlds 2. Thought that was odd too since that also happened awhile ago so I went to the discussion thread to see if there was an update to the announcement or something and I got to reading the comments. It was just the most toxic and vile cesspool of comments. Literal mud brained comments like "no woke game, no DEI this time, this game bad because I can't fuck the asexual brown girl and she should be white anyway because that doesn't make sense in outer space" and other vile bigoted shit. Like seriously guys? You hated the game so much that you have to spew your ignorant garbage brained thoughts on an announcement thread for the sequel? Fuck me these people are just the absolute sludge at the bottom of the barrel.

I'm all for protesting a game because the company is evil (you know which ones are) but holy hell people, the vast majority of the comments were not that at all. Just fucking go play something else. There are a hundred thousand other choices for any respective genre of game. Please just all of you fuck off.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 22 hours ago

I assume they updated the game with an advert banner for the sequel in game if you're curious why it's an update and not announcement.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 day ago

Warhammer 40k. I'm still a part of it. There are some cool and smart people in it.

But there are also a large group of raceist, misogynist, jerks. Then there are the people who are incredibly annoying to play against because of poor social skills. There is always at least one guy who really needs a shower.

[–] [email protected] 51 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Probably Anarchy. Like, the political philosophy.

Andrewism on YouTube is doing so much to make a compelling case for it. But it's a real bummer when you get a group of anarchists together and go, 'Damn, hanging out with these people makes me want to implement some rules and structure so we can get things done. This group is totally leaderless and directionless. I'm gonna go see what the socialists are up to.'

It's sad. In my experience, no one ruins anarchism more than anarchists.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 days ago

I feel like most self-proclaimed anarchists have very little interest in the political philosophy aspect of it. Which is a shame, because it's really far better than its reputation.

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[–] [email protected] 37 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Star Wars. No one hates Star Wars more than a Star Wars fan. I actively avoid other Star Wars fans.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'd consider myself a Star Wars fan, and one of the things that gets me about the current state of fandom is how opposed to nuance it is. Having measured opinions about things is right out; you need to decide if you're going to LOVE or HATE a thing, and if you don't then you're not welcome.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

From what I can tell, you have to love the b Mandolorian and Andor unconditionally, and hate everything else from Disney.

I personally have enjoyed everything, some more than others. But it was all good.

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I love Rick and Morty. And to be fair the whole Justin Roland schism got rid of a lot of toxic fans. Just not all.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I'd say anime would get pretty toxic, just the sheer brainrot of moeshit seasonal trash watchers always seemed to burrow it's way into every legitimately normal and civil discussion for a piece of media, everything was simping and shipping and very porn-brained in an extremely off-putting way.

It was all nauseating, I just liked cool weird foreign basket-weaving cartoons man it wasn't this like, lifestyle or something that some people seem to live or a whole personality.

I'll forever remember Juzoboys back in the day on /a/ but I'm so out and never coming back. At least I was there to say NEVER EVER for the last time when the first Kizu movie got announced.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 hours ago

I like anime, I don't watch it much these days in lieu of manga and Manwha but I am planning to watch a few new titles that I would enjoy, like blue lock

Nothing ruins anime more than talking to people who enjoy the worst aspects of it, but even then I feel lonely with having no one to discuss with

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