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Got called a fucking terrorists after 9/11. I'm Mexican.

I was first called a dyke then bull dyke in elementary school. I had no idea what it meant and the boy who was calling me that was hitting my head from his seat on the bus behind me. So I grabbed his backpack and and flipped him over the seat.

All the gay slurs were the most common to use against me. Though I did get called a n- lover a few times as well.

When I was younger I fought back physically and/ or verbally. As I got older I would just question the person on why what they were calling me was a bad thing.

Though I do think my favorite come back for any of the gay slurs when thrown by afab people would be saying: "yeah and trust me, it will never be an issue for you." While giving them the up and down with a disgusted expression. Seeing the confusion then anger then confusion go across their faces was always amazing. They couldn't argue with it other wise they would be saying they wanted to be seen as attractive by someone of the same sex.

Not even 48h ago. Well in the end I involuntarily admitted the offender to hospital.

Worked on the ambulance. Basically got stopped by a member of the public and informed a guy acting strange in front of a shop. Had a look, got called a few very nasty slurs, called for police backup. Clearly the patient was of unsound mind, not orientated, etc. After some more talking the cops restrained him upon my advice and he got admitted to a somatic(normal) hospital. Whole trip was full of slurs towards everyone, even random passerbys.

Somatic hospital checked him throughly and then transferred him to a psychiatric hospital.

Completely ignore. If you respond in anyway, they achieve their purpose of being annoying.

I'm a trans PoC immigrant. I get catcalled and called slurs very frequently. Nowadays I mostly just ignore them unless they pose a danger.

Uh, pretty sure I was called a bitch for the first time at like age 3. How I've dealt with being called bitch/slut/cunt/hag/feminazi/whore/so on and so forth has changed as I've grown and also by the specific experience.

Men get called "dicks". I would consider that a slur and would guess it's not a one-time "this is how I dealt with it" kind of occurrence for lots of men.

I grew up being called faggot all the time. And since I live in a redneck filled shithole, I still occasionally hear it from MAGA loving pieces of shit; mostly from moving vehicles because the assholes are too cowardly to say or do shit within kicking distance.

I got called a white N-word by an African man because I was doing my job. I hung up on his ass after I realized what he was saying.

I grew up during a time where "gay" was a common insult in school. And being called that probably impacted me more than I gave it credit for... I guess some other things (I went through a lot of abuse in high school) but none stick out to me as such.

More recently, some bi male friends of mine have been using the bundle-of-sticks word to refer to me and others, so I'm wondering if that term in particular is being reclaimed.

Other than that, apart from an American friend not realising how problematic "special" is, I've not really been slurred at. I don't think I'd take it very well though if it happened irl, given how sensitive I am...

I am pretty hard to offend because I know they are trying to offend me and I know they are made of easily mechanically separated meat.

A hexbear called me a "chaser" because I said my wife is a femboy. I laughed it off because I don't care what transphobic children believe.

Yes, many times and mostly I ignored it.

Not giving a single fuck like it should be.

I think. There are not really any that get any type of rise out of me.

Where do we draw the line for slur?

I'm sure we can all agree that one word that starts with N would count, but what about doo-doo-head, dumbass, or fatso?

I was called "gay" multiple times in my life. I'm aroace.

Can you tell I hate living in Morocco?

I'm embarrassed to say it was only a couple years ago when some white people got national attention for getting bent out of shape about being called "cracker" that I learned it doesn't mean like, "bland and pale like a Saltine," but is a reference to enslavers and their whips. I'd always thought it was kinda cute, like "Mayo-American."

So I used to give a kind of "Yeah... you got me.." chuckle when called that, but now it just makes me sad and throws me into a bit of an existential crisis on behalf of my ancestors.

There is a charming Lemmy user who likes to call people "hags" after mining their comments to learn if they are of the lady persuasion. I do not yet, but plan to some day identify as a "swamp hag" so it feels preemptive, but a bit exciting.

When I was a kid I had a friend who'd call me the R slur pretty frequently. Besides ADHD Im basically nurotypjcal, he just meant to say I was being stupid. I kind of internalized it at the time and it gave me some self confidence issues about my intelligence, but I think that would've happened even if he wasn't using a slur.

I post on Lemmy. I was called a slur yesterday!

You ignore it, people are just trying to get you to react. It's sad that slurs are so common here

All the time. A slur can tell you about one's honest thoughts which in turn can tell you about the slur. In any case, it affects how I see them which in turn affects my courses of action towards them.

Been called a bitch a handful of times. I usually say, "Why, thank you!"

"Are you saying you expect us to warranty the engine and a 10-yo car with 140,000 miles, that you bought used? Because that ain't gonna happen."

"Ooohh! You a smart ass little cracker ain't ya!" And hung up.

Had to grab a black coworker and ask what a cracker was.

me n my coworkers laughed in their face

I had to ride my bike quite a way to work as my car broke down (in the US this isn't that common, but is with immigrants) so someone driving by shouted Mexican! and threw what I'm pretty sure was a churro at me lol

(I'm so white that if naked I'd be perfectly camouflaged in the snow.)

Lately I’ve been turning around and saying “Did you just call me a creep? Why did you call me that?”

A Nazi called me a fat cunt on Facebook today in my spam messages and then blocked me from replying LOL. He looks like Alex Jones 2.0.

First time, I sort of didn't process it, just froze and went on without replying, then got mad about it later. Completely embarassing

Somebody here on Lemmy sent me a message calling me the hard R (I'm Black) after posting a pro-LGBT comment.

I read the message, marked the notification as read, and closed my Lemmy tab. Problem solved, no response needed. Just ignored them.

This person was banned from their instance on the same day.

At the risk of showing my “privilege” card with all the boxes ticked ….

• I was called a “Hebe” when I first tried to grow a beard. The guy was annoyed we were slingshotting water balloons off the balcony, so we sent more his way
• someone tried to call me a “cracker” but I laughed because that pitiful attempt at a slur has no power. Y’all have to do better
• someone tried call me gay, but I stood with my best friend, who happens to be gay.