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Why are most people here are negative and rude?

Just to be clear here, I am not talking about instance, rather I am asking about the whole community.

There is no one I seen here who even had expressed any passion towards anything really.

I cannot understand how did that happen?

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 hours ago

Its the internet, no matter how much people here like to think lemmy is some kind of special utopia its no different to any other site or social media.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 14 hours ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 0 points 12 hours ago

The amount of dogshit takes from 2 week old to 3 month old accounts is absurd, Lemmy instances should institute a one month lurking period or something. Some fuckass actually posted Asmongold to a gaming group. Its a tidal wave.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

I don't think it's "growing," more that as society continues to get worse people's outlooks grow darker.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (1 children)

world on fire
people in fire
OP: Why aren't you smiling?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 16 hours ago

Pretty much!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 18 hours ago

The Tumblr effect

Thing allows freedom of speech Thing now has "bad apples" Thing either get lobotomized or accomodates with that freedom.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 day ago

I've found much more genuine, honest discussion on here than other platforms. More people say thanks when someone corrects them. I feel like I'm talking to reasonable adults, for the most part.

[–] [email protected] 46 points 1 day ago

More people more drama. I rarely see rudeness in my experience

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I feel like casual rudeness and insults have become more common as more people have come over from Reddit.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

God damet, redditors ruining a nice thing again :(

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

The first few waves of people are going to be the asshats that got banned for one thing or another. Some good people, mostly bad apples.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 23 hours ago

Okay, there are three reasons why this is:

  1. Anonymity grants people the ability to be assholes.

  2. You've done something or said something that was going to get people riled up over.

  3. People from rejected instances, sites .etc come here to carry over their shitty nature.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Are people negative and rude or not expressed passion towards anything?

Also, I think there is a good passion for tech surrounding this community. I like that.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Yeah ! Except in the dev/code realm... They seem very aggressive to each other, specially if you whisper something like: Rust is safer than C !

I don't really get it, but I find It very pleasant to read when passionate people write a whole essay I don't even understand 1/10 of what they are writing... However, there seems some heated negativity in that community !

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What communities are you frequenting?

The ones I sub and post to have been nice.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 22 hours ago
[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

We're negative doomscrollers, true. But most people seem pretty polite, at least in my experience.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago)

I can be negative. But I love people and want the best for everyone. What I don't like are the toxic systems of control that some people are under, and some people follow. Aand sometimes I can be swept up in the injustice, and lose my patience with extreme followers.

I apologise in advance to this community if I make someone's mood worse, instead of better. I can often fail, and yet we should all strive to be a healthy member of the communities we inhabit!

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 day ago

It’s probably a downstream effect of the souring mood in the United States as the consequences of the current administration and our slide into fascism become increasingly apparent. Can’t speak for the rest of the world, but it’s hard to believe things are getting better out there.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Please also report people being rude, that's a temp ban here.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 16 hours ago

What's with all the downvotes? I swear there has to be vote manipulation going on with some of these threads.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

ehhh i wouldn't it way to start and angry mob and sometimes i dont trust mods descension. since even servers with no rules will make up reasons for a ban

[–] [email protected] 1 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago)

Find the best available option? Or start your own server with no rules and attract others who want no rules?

I think a good community would have restrictions to avoid unnecessary hate

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You'll have to be more specific. I'm not seeing any unusual amount of negativity.

What's that thing about expressing any passion? What do you mean by that?

[–] [email protected] -2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Go to any political post. Everyone is calling others names and it’s not productive at all.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

But that's humans? It's always been like that, everywhere at all times. The only thing that's changed, maybe, is that Lemmy is growing and there's more discussion in general so of course the absolute number of things that cause name-calling has grown too, just like the absolute number of things that don't.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 hours ago

That's not true. Go to youtube and read the comments under any lofi video but that's just one example. When Lemmy just started it was a place for people to escape the fanatics and now it's becoming more toxic.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Selection bias mostly, you only remember the negative interactions. I'm new here but I've not run into any particularly negative or rude people so they don't seem super common, nowhere near like reddit.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

yeah i noticed they tend to go after certain posts and they need to be primed by either downvotes or a comment. the rude people will be quiet if you make safe posts but if they get a hint that there other people that don't like you then they dogpile. i noticed a good way to trigger it is to basically say or imply you do things without their approval or you dont care what they think

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That sounds.. rather conspiratorial.

Also, just yesterday I posted a longish rant about doing what you want and not caring about what people think in a comment and the only reply I got was 'This is the kind of pep talk I need!', so.. shrug Guess we travel in different circles.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

well i don't say that its orchestrated or premeditated, its generally that group wants to feel part of a group and they look for signs that they're part of a group. the "tipping point" is a comment (or even a downvote on op replies) and then people that seek approval align themselves with the largest group.

I told the anti ai crowd that i was going to make an ai bot somewhere on the fediverse just to see how people would interact with it fedizens, simply to satify my curiosity, so that's the context. i just telling people "you're being an asshole to me and making demands from me while I'm just trying to hear you out, so i don't feel like changing for you"

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

My bad, perhaps the better word to use would've been paranoid. Had a similar ring to 'they only come out when no one else is looking', ya know?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Oh okay. I did have a conversation I tried to explain a litteral conspiracy and I kept getting called a conspiracy theorist

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

My theory is that for-profit social media companies push conflict and controversy because it increases β€œengagement.” So, people are conditioned to be hostile and hiss like a cat at the first sign of disagreement (real or imagined). Lemmy, obviously, has different incentives.

It’s happening on Mastodon and BlueSky too. I try to respond with kindness and sincerity. (I don’t always succeed. I kind of suck at it, to be honest. But if we all even can halfass human decency, it’ll be better than most of the internet.)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

+1 ! Need to work on my morning Lemmy scrolling... Grumpy as fuck and not being nice to people sucks :// !

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

Things are hard out there, and that makes people feel like finding hills to die on. The less stressful life is, the better the discourse, usually.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

i noticed that too. i chalk it up to people are always seeking approval and they want to tell express to everyone how the think and feel in hopes that people will express the same. its not everyone id say at most 30%. also you have to keep in mind that this is where the reddit rejects go (i can say that word because i got banned off of reddit lol).

another user got mad and attacked me for saying "my morality and logic is different" and said nothing about why my differences is bad.