TenForward: Where Every Vulcan Knows Your Name

What the fuck makes my name any better than hers? Fuck my name. I don't even want it.

My maiden name was awful to have. Other people liked it because it looked cool, but it was a hassle for everything even in the US, where at least part of it was well known. I then moved to Germany, where it was just totally foreign.

My married name is under three syllables (vs more than eight), easy to spell, and sounds as German as possible. My husband would have loved to take my last name, but we couldn’t do it the way we wanted to (German naming laws 🙃). I would really have liked to at least have been able to keep my maiden name as a middle name, but alas.

I still feel very weird (about a year out) about it, but there are way more good feelings than bad.

However, it’s really annoying that people now assume I’m German. I put in a shit load of work to learn German well as an adult, and my strongest skill is in pronunciation. That combined with my name means people think I’m just a native German who’s bad at grammar, and they don’t correct me anymore.

I always wanted to blend in as a native, I just didn’t think about the middle stretch where I just seem a bit dumb to others, both because of the language and cultural things that people now expect me to know (I thought it was called handkäse because you can eat the little rounds straight from the hand, no need for bread, until last year).

My wife took my name, but I would not give the slightest shit if she didn't, which I made clear to her at the time.

We briefly discussed having a double-barrel surname, but writing that out would be a mild inconvenience that neither of us want.

And maybe this is a dumb question, but what happens when forename surnameA-surnameB marries or has children with forename surnameX-surnameY?

What is the resulting name? forename surnameA-surnameB-surnameX-surnameY? Do they pick one of each, e.g. A-X?

It's illegal to change your name for wedding reason in Quebec (Canada). Something that followed the quiet Revolution and distancing government and religion. You don't own your wife. You can still pee on her shoes but it won't be notarized.

The compromise is clearly to swap last names with each other

If it creates such a wall of separation, take her name instead. Problem solved.

What a narrow view. In other many places things are different and they function you know. In Brazil kids get the mother's surname.

When someone you like, also dislikes someone you dislike.

I think you would have to physically fight my wife to make her relearn her signature with a new name.

I demanded (not really) that my wife keep her last name. We have the same first name although spelled slightly different

I enjoy the couples who both change their last names, usually a mashup of the two previous names. That's the ticket.

Calling it now. His next movie is "Am I a misogynist?" and in it he will prove that he is indeed one.

Isn't it scary to see the count difference between Matt's tweet vs Jeffrey's reply ? Thanos snap isn't going to cut it...

Long story short, my wife and I have been married 10+ years. She just changed from her maiden name to mine a couple weeks ago. I kinda miss her old name, it feels weird having the same name now.