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This trial is a huge event in France. Hopefully it will lead to some real cultural change, and with any luck the rest of the world will be able to learn something as well.
The bravery of this lady for going public and beating on the pots and pans as loud as she can is incredible.
We need serious sex-ed with consent at the pinnacle of it. (And, even then, we need some major cultural changes)
It's a great example of why teaching people about consent is important. Some of the men on trial claim they thought it was a consensual kinky game played between husband and wife, and that they were unaware they were raping anybody.
I don't expect they will have much success with this argument in court. But it's the kind of shit one might fall for if one has not received the training to know with immediate certainty that consent is only established by an active yes, never by the lack of a no, and that it needs to be personally gathered by anyone involved in the act. And that without consent, it's rape.
It's fucking obvious, but I can totally see how some people could buy into their claim of good faith and act as if it means something. Not necessarily because they're bad people, but because they lack the training to understand what consent means and why it's important.
Police were only able to identify 50 suspects out of the 83 that appeared in Dominique Pelicot’s videos.
Their ages range from 26 to 68 and they hail from all walks of life - firefighters, pharmacists, labourers and journalists. Many are fathers and husbands.
Of the other men accused, 15 admit rape, but all the others admit only to taking part in sexual acts.
how the fuck did he find 83 other rapists? is there a rapist website where they meet up?
a rape club?
is it just common that men are willing to do that?
i can accept that occasionally a person’s mind will break and they’ll do evil things… or will in some twisted dictatorship… but when teams of evil people form i start to feel very jaded about humanity….
1 in 2 women have experienced sexual harassment in some form.
1 in 4 have been sexually assaulted.
One could cry ‘not all men!’ and that is most certainly true. But it is still doubtful it is a small minority running about perpetrating all these acts. Even if it is not 1 in 4 men committing the assaults, those numbers are still far too high.
So, a few things:
I don't know how many of the first group are being honest, but the existence of both can give you an idea of how bad our culture used to be towards rape, and still is to a large extent.
There's a pretty striking moment of archival footage, from the 60s or 70s I think, of some french dude being asked in the street "and you, have you ever raped a woman?" And his response is a very matter-of-fact "well, of course!".
People don't want to believe that rapists are, in many ways, just ordinary people. So they both refuse to see it in others, and refuse to see themselves as capable of even contributing to the problem. Hopefully this can be the wakeup call many men here in France need to realize they must push back when their friends make rape jokes, for ex.