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It's so bad that my fiancée has some bras that say she's a B cup and others that says she's a D cup. In order to go bra shopping, you have to actually try them on to find out if they fit.

If I had to try on underwear to see if they fit, I might not bother with underwear at all!

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Not much help to know what cup size you are if the bra companies are only pretending to be standardized

[–] [email protected] 50 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Only knowing your cup size is not enough. You need to know the underbust size as well. A 32D and a 34C have cups with the same volume. Sure, there is still some variance but not as much as I thought before I learned that.

Edit: This calculator and the community of the same name on the-site-that-shall-not-be-named helped me a lot in finding my actual bra size. Now my only problem is that almost no company here has more than two or three bras in that size...

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

And it is more complicated even than that. I am a small busted woman and yet the best fit I can get is 34D. The 34 makes sense, underbust is 33. The D is what I measure but most have too much room. I still need that size because the circumference of the boobs fits in that wire; any smaller is too narrow.

I think bras need 3 measurements not 2. I need band 34, wire size D, cup capacity closer to C. And there are plenty of women in the opposite situation too, with more projection but smaller circumference.

So the non-standardized sizing is a workaround for that problem.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Yeah, the two measurements are really not enough to fit all the different boob shapes. And just offering different shapes with the same two measurements leads to problems for those who otherwise could rely on the two alone.

I have that problem with trousers where one measurement for width is not enough to fit both my waist and my hips. With bras it's just that apparently you can't have more than B or at maximum C if your underbust is 28/30. According to companies at least.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Yeah and what anyone thinks is a 32b is probably a 32E or something. Again with the wire circumference! A 32b is like a shot glass not a champagne glass. I can tell any guy I'm an A or B cup because that's what they "look like", and I agree.

I just started thinking of them as numbers all, no letters. So I am wearing 34+4. That's not big, a +4 just means 4" difference underbust to bust, and some of that is lats, not boobs!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Interesting website! I'll have to remember to try this when I can find where I put my tape measure.

Personally, once I found bralettes I've never gone back. My boobs are small enough that they work just fine. The comfort level has gone up by like ten billion. Bras without underwire come in second but still not the greatest. I just can't really understand bras with underwire.

Tbh, I'm able to go braless under loose fitting sweaters, but for any other shirt, I just don't have the right boob shape for it.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I think underwire is more important the larger your breast volume is. I was recently at an event with a bunch of women who’ve known each other for a long time and we did a game where an emcee asked a question and then we went to a side of the room that fit our personal answer. One of them was 1) underwire, 2) no wire, 3) no bra. As I shuffled over to the underwire side, one of my pals joked that this was just a way to separate us by breast size. And sure enough, those of us with the wires tended to be on the heavier-cupped side, and the small number of no-bra ladies were quite petite.

I tried bralettes once and they didn’t work for me at all. I’m too big for them to provide any support so they just buckled, essentially. It’s a bummer because some of them are so cute! But my girls are just too heavy. And the only thing that keeps them in line is the damn wire. I will say that being fitted correctly does help the wire feel more comfortable though.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Oh believe me, I fully get that I have a bit of "small boob privilege" in terms of being able to wear bralettes. Do the non-bralette, non-underwire bras still not work for you though? They seem to provide a decent amount of support, but idk how they work for everyone.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

They still buckle a bit unfortunately, unless they’re a full-on sports bra that is squashing them as hard as possible and giving me the monoboob look. I’ve also found that a properly fitted bra that has the wire for structure actually makes me look slimmer overall, probably because my band size is actually on the narrower side. So I’ll occasionally wear the one non-wire bra I have when I don’t care as much about it looking good under my clothes. But even then, when it buckles on the side, the bra still kind of sticks out under my arms so it’s still uncomfortable.