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I want to work on complimenting other men more! Specifically my goal is to compliment people on things they clearly worked hard on or put in effort, cause it sucks if you work super hard or care about something and then don't feel like anyone notices.

So I'm going to try and compliment people who:

Have really well done and unique tattoos

Are older but super athletic (It's harder and more thankless, since when you're young and athletic you're usually in sports and get lots of praise. At least that was my experience)

Have super sharp outfits

Have really nice shoes (nice shoes are expensive and keeping them clean is legit hard)

what are other good compliments we should give each other?

EDIT: Oh and I still remember when I got a compliment on what I was getting while grocery shopping. So if I see like real good food in there I'll try to throw out a "looks like you're cooking up some good stuff"

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[–] [email protected] 51 points 3 months ago (7 children)

Anything. Literally anything. The only time I get noticed is when someone needs something from me. I define my existence by how useful I am to others because that's the only time I've ever felt wanted. I hate it, but it's better than being completely ignored (which has happened many times in my life).

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 months ago (1 children)

May I compliment you on your grammar and punctuation?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

You can compliment anything you like. It's all appreciated! :)

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I see the word commission in a lot of your art posts. Do you draw? It's good stuff.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

No, see the text of the post. I'm linking to other people's stuff.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

I'm in this comment and I don't like it.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

Same. I might as well be invisible until someone needs help with something. I get compliments at work sometimes but it's all related to my being competent enough to do something they need.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago
[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

This is the best response. So apropos to too many of us!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I got a couple escorts who would like to talk to you

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

No..unless you think it's shameful to use their services..

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

There's a story that pops up time and again on forums about men buying time with escorts but not having sex with them. They have dinner or something, then she just listens to him. Idk if it's true or not, I've never heard of it irl. It's like therapy with a hot woman.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

It was a plot point in series 3 of Auf Wiedersehen, Pet, for what it's worth

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

Too broke for that, sorry.