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I've been surprised by how effective it's been to say, respectfully, "this is important to me," maybe adding "here's why." Got all my siblings, mom, SO, and best friend on Signal, that's a vast majority of my online conversations.

reddit is orders of magnitude bigger then lemmy, but I find lemmy high quality and has more people with similar values- more than i could ever keep up with.

Back when Adobe went subscription-only, I stopped using it on my personal work and devices even though a lot of my previous work depended on it. Had to switch to different tools, but now there are better options. Not only has Adobe stagnated, but they caused an even bigger exodus when they messed with the ToS to train ai on user data.

I switch to linux a few years ago and now when I have jobs that use windows I realize how clunky it actually is, and it's only getting worse while linux has been getting better.

I'm fully degoogled (also a graphineOS user). It took me years to eliminate each service, but I was sick of these giant companies that could never give me the things I wanted because in interferes with what they want (ad revenue). The only thing you can do is take it all back. Participate as little as possible. These companies will not stop getting worse while people continue to use them.

It can be inconvenient, time-consuming, and hard, but there are options, and it is a lot easier now than it was a decade ago. I see no reason why it wont continue to get easier and more accessible. That's why it's important for tech savvy folks to do what they can, now, and make it easier for those who come after them. Personally, I've done a lot for myself, but need to learn more about hosting securely so I can offer close friends and family better alternatives that they can easily access.

I wanted something similar from a remote company I was working for. They were pretty good about fulfilling requests, but when I asked for a good kvm switch they said they had trouble in the past and instead recommended a usb hub that can toggle between machines. Then connect both machines to the same monitor and toggle the input. Not ideal, but low cost and functional. Might not suit your needs (would be annoying if you have to frequently toggle back and forth), but if you're just trying to share your desk space between a work machine and personal, and the monitor input is easy to toggle, it's worth considering.

I don't think they have the ux advantage that their wealth suggests due to misaligned incentives. A good portion of their investment is getting users to see as many ads as they will tolerate. Try to modify any privacy settings, for example, and the ux is as garbage as amazon.

Fediverse and self hosted, open source alternatives are still relatively new. Folks have to expect some turbulence. As things grow and more bug reports and contributions can be made, the ux could be superior because they can give users what they want instead of maximizing monetization.

Misskey is a federated facebook alternative I heard about on mastodon recently. I'm not too familiar with it myself, but seems worth mentioning.

It has a "groups" feature that might avoid the "instance per person" lemmy workaround you were thinking about. According to this comparison misskey doesn't have a like button, but a few of its forks do. Not sure about the upload experience; may depend on the app. I didn't see any clients listed on their site but did a quick search for an iOS app, which exists, so i assume android, too.

Sorry I don't have more info, but I hope that's useful. Best of luck! I'll be looking for a similar solution in the near future.

Idk what your feed looks like but if it's like mine-- posts hyping ai juxtaposed with posts from artists that are (rightfully) upset that their work is being used without their consent to train generative ai in a push to replace artists or devalue their work-- linkedin can feel pretty dire and soul sucking.

Well said and a core concept people need to understand to appreciate data privacy/sovereignty. Simply calling it data overlooks what it often is: your behavior over time. We don't call it PII but few things are more personally identifying.

I was surprised by a recent, popular comment here on lemmy where someone advised against using cash because of missing out on rewards. A majority of people don't appreciate the tradeoffs here. By default, banks and private companies have more info on us than we have on ourselves. To think that they're going to do anything that benefits us more than them is naive. While not everything is zero sum, we are talking about extractive, profit seeking industries.

Cash seems like the best defense on this front. I recent switched back to cash, and continue to track my own finances; Bank sees $500 withdrawal; I see $34.45 at grocery store, $19.20 at hardware store, etc.

Pro tip: try random but memorable phone numbers at checkout. Now you can enjoy the savings, and salt/contaminate the data extraction of others. The more randomness (where and when you shop, what you buy, which numbers you use) the better.

All the metadata perhaps (still very valuable), but client-side, zero-access encryption means it's encrypted before it hits the servers. So while a data leak might, for example, show who, when, and how much you're emailing, it wouldn't show the content of the email as gmail would.

Moving in the direction of better and voting with your dollars is an important step away from already enshittified structures, which I'd argue, are inherent to certain models and not others. EG: a self hosted, open source software developed by a non-profit could sell and incorporate and enshittify, but the possibility of forking is an effective disincentive that could easily eat projected gains.

💯 There's more software, games, movies, music, people, etc than I'll ever be able to interact with in my entire life. So much good to be found when you don't waste time on all the extractive, disrespectful, enshittified BS. Edit: dropped word.

I'm with y'all there. On top of dealing with customers, it was pretty gross work: dumping the sticky bins when the bottle return was full; Mopping up messes; Emptying trash and throwing it in the compactor. Weather permitting, carts were definitely the easiest.

Going for stray carts at the outer edges = quiet walk without any customers or managers.

First of all, thank you for replying. There's probably many on the subject who would down vote a counter point without even reading, let alone replying.

it opens up the "well since he put the cart wherever he wanted I can do the same" mindset

This seems to make multiple incorrect assumptions:

1. there's not already multiple carts that could inspire that mindset. There's usually many out of place for much longer. This cart was literally there for less than 15 seconds.
2. people are biased towards replicating negative behavior. As I said, I grabbed the cart on my way in, but that won't inspiring order the way leaving it inspires chaos?
3. most people are unable to differentiate between where a cart is easy to grab and where it's just going to linger or get in the way. I know I'm not the only one grabbing carts on my way in. It doesn't take years of cart collecting to notice.

I feel depressed when I see assumptions that seem to view people as really dumb and requiring hard-line, no-exceptions rules. It gets uncomfortably close to an authoritarian worldview. I wrote my previous reply because, while I believe people should put their carts back, and model that behavior myself, I also believe things are rarely black and white and it's valuable to interrogate when that might be.

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Okay, at the risk of down votes, I'll take the bait.

My first job was more than 3 years of collecting carts. In that time it's easy to see patterns like where carts often end up. Some are left out in the open, near a slope where the slightest breeze will animate it. Others pushed up on the sidewalk to the side of the store where there's not much traffic and they just pile up. And others still will be left along a common walking path, not blocking the path, secure but not stuck.

Those last ones often take care of themselves because so many people walk along that path, it's trivial to grab it on your way in, and it's faster than pulling a cart backwards out of the entryway where they're stored.

Years later, I'm picking up something for my nephew's birthday party. I park the car. There's a cart in the position mentioned above: on my way, not blocking anyone, secure but easy to grab. So I grab it, walk inside, do my shopping, come out, unload it. Nearest return is back inside the store, or I can put it back where I found it securely, along the way, but out of the way. I choose the latter. Before I even get in my car someone has grabbed the cart on their way in.

I fail to see the problem. However, the person who grabbed the cart was talking loudly to her grandchild so I could hear, "his legs must be broken since he can't put the cart back" 😤

TL;DR In a post about returning your carts, a job which I had for over 3 years, the most obnoxious person I encountered was not someone who put their cart in the wrong place, but a passive-aggressive, self-righteous, loudmouth who was so narrow minded they couldn't see there are spots carts can be left that save both parties time and create no additional work, even as she benefitted.