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Some games ask the players to define the stakes and goals when a conflict starts. This can help keep players on track.

Like, the players are on a journey through the mountains, and as they pass through a tunnel they encounter a giant spider. The default mode is "fight the spider to the death!". But if you ask the players again "what is your goal here?" they might remember it's "get through the mountains", not "kill everything we meet." Now they might focus on how to get past it safely.

If the DM rewards players for advancing their goals instead of just murder, that can also encourage non-murder behavior.

The other day some guy was walking his dog outside in the city. The dog took a shit, and the guy just kept walking. I made eye contact but didn't say anything. Just shook my head and kept walking.

We were heading in the same direction and after a bit I got to my destination and stopped. He stopped a little ahead and let his dog take another shit. He looked back at me and said something like "you wanna pick this one up? Coward."

I don't know but for that moment I was emotionally ready to murder him. He's literally making the world a shittier place, and for nothing. I don't want that kind of selfish shithead just walking around without consequences.

Well, lucky for me I'm not armed and have impulse control. He was bigger than me and I don't know how to fight. I yelled at him that he's a shithead or something inarticulate, and he laughed and kept walking.

Fuck that guy. I hope he gets hit my a truck and bleeds out in a shit filled ditch.

I still have the onyx path WoD 2e books, and I enjoy them. I find it confusing that there several variations of "World of Darkness"

In one of my old groups, I'd usually verify the player and I understood each other , and they understood the likely consequences. Like, "You can shoot her, but remember this is her club, with her friends , and she's a vampire so she probably won't die. But if you want to roll, it's at -4 from her Celerity you've seen her use."

One player was always like "you never let me do anything!"

I was like you can do it, but I don't want you to be surprised and mad if there are consequences.

Another player, by contrast, would listen to me clarify what was likely to happen, and be like "cool bro let's do it.". We still talk about the time his character jumped out a 20 story window to save his friend's girlfriend. Great player. Took a lot of damage, as warned, but lived.

If I was raising kids, I absolutely would not want to do it in the suburbs. It's isolating and limiting. I was always so jealous of the kids I knew that lived in the city. They could do things. I was stuck indoors , or walking for like 90 minutes to get anywhere.

I do not miss driving. Public transit forever.

But when I did drive, after my reckless youth, I'd usually just chill in the right lane. I don't care. Fly by at 120mph. I'll be here going with the flow of traffic, or about the speed limit if I'm alone.

I do remember one time in the suburbs when I was visiting my parents, I was driving to the grocery store. It's a short drive (because it's the suburbs, you can't safely walk to the supermarket), no highways. About 10 minutes to get there from driveway to parking lot. Some guy behind me started absolutely losing his shit, screaming, and passed me dangerously by driving onto the shoulder. He pulled into the same parking lot. I parked well away from him because I didn't want to deal with crazy.

I'm not good at math, but if the entire trip was about 10 minutes, I feel like the time difference between me going about the speed limit and me speeding is, at most, what, 2 minutes? 5 minutes? The guy probably took more than 5 minutes off his life being so angry.

Another finger on the monkey's paw curls closed :(

I do sometimes joke that in order to hold office you must be able to win a game of Civilization with 2 different victory types.

I read a post about different communication styles, and this is "builder vs maintainer". https://www.haileymagee.com/blog/three-communication-differences

A builder will try to add to the conversation by adding their own experiences. A maintainer will not add their own, but will focus on the other person's.

A builder talking about something may feel like a maintainer isn't that interested because they're not adding anything.

A maintainer talking to a builder may feel annoyed because the builder keeps talking about themselves.

Less access to goods and services made it generally unpleasant.

Less access? what? What places are you comparing?

I live in a city and have never felt like I have less access than when I was in the car centered suburbs.

I feel like advertisers and capitalism are so gross, they've poisoned the whole concept.

I don't think there's anything innately wrong or violent to put up a flyer that says like "I'm starting a frisbee club. We're meeting Saturdays at Noon in the park". That's an ad. But it's a whole other beast from ads that track you. Or ads that try to make you feel insecure or inadequate.

Yeah, I mostly play Fate or nWoD. But a lot of people are really emotionally invested in D&D, so sometimes I think of ways to try to trick them into playing something different while they think they're still playing D&D.