boatswain

I mean, I use Discord pretty much every day, and that's what I assumed.

Oh, and Dunsany! Can't believe I forgot him.

They're both mass-market pulp that are entertaining to read. There's plenty of sci-fi and fantasy that's literature: Ursula LeGuin, Tolkien, Gene Wolfe, NK Jemisin, Vonnegut... the list goes on.

I mean, it's Tom Clancy. It's a fun read, like Dan Brown or Brandon Sanderson, but it's not literature or anything.

Puerto Rico is lovely

It sounds like you should be doing the shopping when you want to do the cooking.

I've found the $5 a month tier to be just about right. There have been a few months I've gone over, but they make that super easy to deal with: they just change the subscription renewal date and you start your next month a few days early.

Yes: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mosquito-borne_disease

FYI "mouth breather" predates the setting of Stranger Things by decades. It's also not about manipulatively forcing them to deny it: https://english.stackexchange.com/questions/508300/mouth-breathing-as-slang-for-stupidity

I don't remember who said it first, but I've linked it before: there's no paradox if tolerance is a social contact rather than an ethic. If someone breaks the terms of the contact, then the other party is not bound by it any more.

I get where you're coming from. Unfortunately, it's not really that simple. Sometimes a relationship is so toxic that there's no way to restore the basic trust that's needed in order to function as a unit. This is no different. Pre-Trump, we might have been able to talk and salvage things; at this point, they're just as broken as a relationship full of cheating and domestic abuse. My fear is that the only way forward is breakup (ie civil war) or some other equally deep trauma.

If you're having problems with a lot of people you like being blocked by your server, it's probably a good sign that you should change your server. That's kind of the point of being able to do that.