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[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

"The American dream" was socioeconomic mobility, that shit is for commies these days.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago

That is just every country, countries would hardly try to look worse than they are.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 6 months ago (2 children)

What do you mean, "nowadays"? Mobile games always sucked.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Scientists and other rationalists. If you wanted to be dramatic, their fight to save ourselves and the planet would be against the inertia of "common wisdom", known bugs in human psychology, the resistance of wanting to disregard the unknown or unpleasant, everyone for whom the truth (to the best of our knowledge) is economically inconvenient with the considerable economic and societal power they wield.

They are not good odds, but it is correct against incorrect and often against malignantly incorrect, and they are all extremely formidable villains.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

Oh, no no, capitalism welcomes competition, don't'y'know.
Just as long as it doesn't mess with the profit margins.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Technically true, which is the most generous I could possibly be. It is not good advice. Telling someone to live more brightly is, begging your pardon, freaking useless.

Edit: to be clear, a lot of the rest of your advice isn't bad or anything. I just really hate this particular phrasing. It will not help, I guarantee it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Life is too short to be miserable. You will die the same way unless you take action to course correct and start living more brightly.

bruh

[–] [email protected] 12 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Been there, sort of. Lifelong depression does tend to make you "negative" and apparently some people hate that. NTs are not necessarily genius communicators who've worked at it a lot, it's just that most people per definition tend to communicate their preferred/"natural" way. This means that whatever is pissing them off is a) not necessarily wrong, b) not necessarily what/why they think it is, and c) something you'll likely have to work at whether you're "in the wrong" or not.

Kinda depressing, eh?

Unfortunately, sometimes negativity is contagious - sharing something negative with someone is likely to worsen their mood. I won't conjecture why that is - I can only really say that whenever people dump long lists of everything wrong with the world on me, I rarely feel great about it afterwards. Negativity is often warranted, usually realistic, sometimes funny in specific ways etc., but mostly it is still just negativity.

Try and be mindful about this: what are you communicating? Is the content or tone negative? Did you get onto a negative track from something more positive? It is not easy, but you could unironically put up a visible reminder. Don't overdo the self-censoring either, though, that's also not healthy.

Also, are you taking up a lot of space in the conversation relative to others? This can add some friction too if the disparity is big enough. I have been both the loud person (usually from boredom) and the person getting annoyed at someone individually being like 50% of a chat. One man's dead chat is a reasonable level of activity for another, after all.

(All the above is personal experience - reasonably sure the buzzkill stuff is an actual thing but I wasn't able to find a citation or anything.)

[–] [email protected] 15 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I don't see it either, but I'm sure the .ml gentleperson is only too psyched to explain.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 months ago

If you have a perfectly normal (non-pathological) lack of confidence then pretending to be confident may allegedly help you. A cynic could remark that that requires knowing what that looks like and being able to pull it off, while almost nobody offering that particular "advice" seems to feel a huge need to elaborate on it.

It's a cliché.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 6 months ago

See, this is exactly what people mean by disregarding any criticism.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 6 months ago

disregarded any criticism

Some people still do this. It is still pretty damn funny.

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