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So I'm a shut-in with a ton of problems and no money. My life revolves around World of Warcraft and Destiny 2 which is sad in its own right I'm sure. Anyway every single time I try to find a community (guild or clan) it goes to hell within a month or so. They always say I'm too negative about the game or my performance. No matter what I do/say it apparently always comes across as 'negative' and they see it as hurting their community. Funny enough these communities are always dead and I'm talking into a void trying to engage people.

Sorry I'm not sure why I'm posting this. Just had another group tell me I was getting kicked due to negativity and I'm so tired of it. I don't have any friends, I'm always starting over from scratch and even if I try my hardest it still ends the same way. Don't even feel that I'm being negative since I just say bugs me. Sorry. Feel like I could cry, because of everything, and I can't even do that.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 6 months ago (10 children)

I used to be in this pit too (and still dip back in every once in a while)

What helped me was recognizing what “negative Nancy’s” sounded like

What I sounded like. I recorded myself once and just kept tally of all the times I disagreed, argued, or tried to push on something that wasn’t worth pushing about.

Are you feeling depressed? Have you tried talking with professionals or maybe even just your family about it? They likely know you best and will be able to help you out.

Sometimes talkin with a good therapist you can vibe with a bit just helps to see these alternate viewpoints that your cognitive bias won’t/can’t see

Might be worth it. For me, and it seems like maybe you too, getting fed up with myself was the first step to being critical and objective about my choices in behavior. Sometimes being a bit “lighter” about stuff is what you need to help reset. But that can be hard if you’re struggling physically to produce enough serotonin or whatever the ailment might be. Other times it’s just habits you need to change.

Life is too short to be miserable. You will die the same way unless you take action to course correct and start living more brightly.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Life is too short to be miserable. You will die the same way unless you take action to course correct and start living more brightly.

bruh

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (2 children)

You can’t expect to make change in your life by doing nothing. You have to take action. That’s all that’s being said here and nothing more.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Technically true, which is the most generous I could possibly be. It is not good advice. Telling someone to live more brightly is, begging your pardon, freaking useless.

Edit: to be clear, a lot of the rest of your advice isn't bad or anything. I just really hate this particular phrasing. It will not help, I guarantee it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

Fair enough, some help is better than no help

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