Badabinski

I used to have this problem all the time, I think it's pretty normal. I did many years of therapy, and part of what I got out of that was an understanding of how people deal with pain and anger. The best way to change someone's mind is to try to empathize with their position and show your understanding. Once you share context with them, you can gently explain why you feel the way you do. Sometimes, you do this and find that the other person's point of view is a more accurate reflection of your values and you change your mind instead.

Don't do this with bad faith actors though. just block them.

I used to have this problem all the time, I think it's pretty normal. I did many years of therapy, and part of what I got out of that was an understanding of how people deal with pain and anger. The best way to change someone's mind is to try to empathize with their position and show your understanding. Once you share context with them, you can gently explain why you feel the way you do. Sometimes, you do this and find that the other person's point of view is a more accurate reflection of your values and you change your mind instead.

Don't do this with bad faith actors though. just block them.

I'll throw in "folks" as another gender neutral option. I say "you folks" all the time, especially in professional contexts. I'm not from the South, but I have family there so y'all is a part of my vocabulary. I use it in more informal situations pretty commonly.

Android similarly makes it easy. If I just press and hold on ?, I get options for ¿ and ‽. Seems like mobile devices have worked out more convenient UIs for this type of thing.

I always have a terminal open in the workspace on my other monitor so it's just interr <super-;>

wait, that makes me sound like an absolute fucking nutcase lol. I typed that first sentence completely unironically and only realized how absurd it was afterwards. It's faster than the whole "type the Unicode point value" thing, but I should probably start using compose key instead.

I fukken love me an interrobang. I have a shell alias on my computers that copies one of those bad boys into my clipboard so I can more easily display my shocked puzzlement. It's very useful when dealing with msft products, especially Azure.

Yep, or when you're doing EMDR and you open your eyes and your therapist is crying. That's how you know you've hit the good shit 👉😎👉

Thankfully, that only happened once. It honestly made me feel better, it was incredibly validating.

Just wanna give a big ol' +1 to The Body Keeps The Score. My partner read it and it was a game changer for her.

God, I hated this book when I read it in high school. I avoided Victorian-era literature for so long because of it.

I doubt I had the emotional maturity to get much out of it back then. I'd probably have a better time now, but I have a grudge at this point and I'm gonna stick with it, dammit.

Based off of your comment history, it seeeeems like you live in the US, although I could deffo be wrong. That's where I live, so I may have good news. It's illegal to sell tritium products in the US, but it's not illegal to buy it as an individual. There's a Taiwanese company that sells all kinds of cool little tritium widgets: https://www.mixglo.com/

that's where I got my vial from. It wasn't cheap for what it is, but I think it's cool.

edit: looks like they also ship to Canada if you live there. I've no idea what the laws are up there, but I'm assuming it's legal if they're willing to ship.

God, what a wonderful thread that was. I've decided to follow and star @[email protected] so I can follow up on their future exploits.

Sadly, it doesn't appear that they've posted in quite some time. Hopefully they'll come out of hiding one day and ask more ridiculous questions.

I have a little tritium vial on my keys because I am a clumsy oaf with ADHD and the little greeny glow has been useful a couple of times. It's great when I'm out at night and my keys yeet themselves out of my pocket and land in the darkest possible area.

I mostly got it because it's cool though. Radioluminescence is fukken rad!