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[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago

Out here in the you guys zone making yall happen. 10 years and you guys will be nearly gone cause people get tired of having to ubsubltly tack on "and gals" or "gals and nonbinary pals".

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I thought y'all was just a gender neutral term combining you and all.

How would it be wrong or offensive to refer to refer to trans person as "y'all"? Genuine question.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 days ago (1 children)

How would it be wrong or offensive to refer to refer to trans person as "y'all"?

"Y'all not welcome in these parts"

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago

You got me there.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago

As a non-english speaker, I appreciate Β«Y'allΒ» 'cause it always bug me the absence of a way to reference more than one individual in English.

What you mean Β«YouΒ» is used to reference both one person and a crowd? English is fuck up.

[–] [email protected] 44 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (14 children)

People where I am from call everyone "you guys" - men, women, trans, doesn't matter, everyone is just "you guys" even when it's a woman addressing a group of women.

The literal meaning isn't gender neutral, but in actual practice, it 100% is.

As for "y'all" or "you all", I don't see how it could possibly be interpreted as offensive to any gender.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 6 days ago (3 children)

"You People" is the one to be avoided

[–] [email protected] 16 points 6 days ago (1 children)

"howdy fuckers" is the opposite as it sounds bad on paper but in practice it goes over well (except with middle aged moms)

[–] [email protected] 19 points 6 days ago (1 children)

"G'day cunts" goes over either extremely well or extremely poorly, with no in-between

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 days ago

Ah the classic way to say hello in Australian.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Dude is also situationally gender neutral. Saying "Hey dude" to a trans woman is misgendering her but exclaiming "Yo dude check this out!" or "Duuuude no way" is perfectly acceptable.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 days ago

Y’all actually has gained particular traction in the north through the queer community. Most trans people I know use y’all even if their geographic location doesn’t indicate they should

[–] [email protected] 27 points 6 days ago

I mean, neither "you" nor "all" is a gendered term in any way

[–] [email protected] 13 points 6 days ago

How you fuckers doing, eh?

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 days ago

Second person never has a gender in English. Saying "you" should also be fine, or "thee" if you feel like getting your quaker on.

Special requests notwithstanding - the platinum rule here is just to accommodate whatever you reasonably can.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 6 days ago (6 children)

Y'all is the opposite of offensive for trans people. I lived in the south for a while, and I now use y'all specifically to be inclusive. I wouldn't say "you guys" is offensive to trans women, but I would say for me and likely other trans women it briefly brings to mind being misgendered in the past, so I would call it a small kindness to ube as gender neutral as possible.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 days ago

We are afraid to use common greetings now? How about we all refer to each other as "carbon units"?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Am I the only one who actually looked for more pixels for this guy?

Anywho, here you go my guy:

Edit: hmmm, Lemmy seems to be compressing it. Here's a link.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 days ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago

I have a VERY southern friend. He once said "y'all all".

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 days ago

There are pride buttons that say Y'all means all.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

I'm from "you guys" but I've lived in "y'all" and now I'm forever team "y'all," regardless of where I'm living.

It's the best export from the south, except maybe Texas brisket and pecan pie.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 days ago

Having exported myself from the deep South to Yankee land, "Y'all have a good one!" never fails to brighten the day of someone working a cash register.

In general, folks up here really like southern politeness. They think sugar wouldn't melt in my mouth. I get stopped in stores to talk all the time. Pretty frequently, they just give me a discount. I thought Yankees were supposed to be rude, but they're actually really nice in public.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Youse LOL, almost lost it when I heard it one time

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 days ago (4 children)

Y'all reminds me of the bible belt. I'm not transgender but I am queer and now and then it makes me uncomfortable.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago

Fwiw, second person is fine as long as there's no misgendering... It's like calling someone by their name

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 days ago (3 children)

We need a better second person plural in English. Y'all works but its a big language gap

[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 days ago

Hey...

Folks

Friends

Comrades

Everyone

People

Pals

You motley crew

Weirdos

Siblings

Fuckers

..how you doing, wanna go to the movies?

(this is by no means exhaustive list, the point is there are plenty of existing and perfectly acceptable alternatives, pick one, or more, and get comfortable with it)

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago (2 children)

I'm from Maryland and I said "howdy" in New York and I got roasted by the CVS clerk for 2 full minutes. And then I said "do y'all have Tylenol" in hopes that she could point me in the direction. Another minute of her roasting me...

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 days ago

Trust me there are many more areas that say y'all

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