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[–] [email protected] 115 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Of course, 'sharenting' is a word.

[–] [email protected] 93 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I definitely read "sharting" at first glance

[–] [email protected] 21 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (2 children)

believe it or not, right to jail, right away.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago (1 children)

A right to jail bad parents as other citizens observe them would probably do a lot to change parenting.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 8 months ago (3 children)

There'd be hardly any parents left if you could jail bad parents on whim based on a singular observation.

Then many of those kids would be even worse off...

Thinking back to the very "concerned parents" of my childhood, they were usually the over protective lunatics

[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Well, note how I didn't say it would improve parenting.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago

Lol! Touché

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago

Unfortunately, "common sense" isn't common.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 8 months ago

I just read an onion article and thought this was another one.

[–] [email protected] 92 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Good!

It’s super creepy and disgusting how some parents use their children as props for social media “content” 🤮

[–] [email protected] 6 points 8 months ago

Ruby whatever her name was comes to mind.

[–] [email protected] 56 points 8 months ago (4 children)

This is really important imo. Kids grow up predisposed to stupid oversharing of their private life. It cripples their ability to experiment and make mistakes if they have to fear being exposed to a giant audience.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 8 months ago (2 children)

I remember reading something about how gen Z, the first generation that had social media from early childhood, are more avoidant in making big life decisions than previous generations due to the sensitivity to publicly making a mistake.

Risk aversion is good for many things, but a lot of the best life experiences/accomplishments you can have require taking a leap at some point.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 8 months ago

If you fell on your face before the camera phone. Your 2 friends laughed at you. Nowadays the whole school laughes at the video of you for a week or more. I am not at all suprised that young people are risk avoidant. I feel so very priveleged that I grew up in the slim timeframe while the internet was new and exciting and made modem warbling noises. And not now in the time when we are permanently connected, and absolutly everything on the internet is trying to exploit you, and have a team of psycoanalysts to make it most effective on you.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 8 months ago

a lot of the best life experiences/accomplishments you can have require taking a leap at some point.

For sure, im not even a parent yet but this stuff is so complicated to deal with

[–] [email protected] 8 points 8 months ago

I tell you what, I said a lot of things as a child that I would vehemently disagree with today. If I had to be branded with that staining my image for life, I don't think I could deal with the shame.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 months ago

It's like a panopticon, but purely mental and inbuilt since their first memories.

This will lead to some heinous things down the line, probably started by those who by some luck of the draw weren't exposed to the panopticon.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago

Also some parents just don't know any better.

[–] [email protected] 47 points 8 months ago (1 children)

A friend used to routinely post about her children on Facebook and other SM, until someone claiming to be a grandmother tried to pick up one of her children from school. Fortunately, the school had safeguards in place and followed protocol. All those posts and pictures were deleted immediately.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Its so sad that stuff like this needs to happen before people wake up. The kids dont deserve failures like this as parents.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 8 months ago (1 children)

She was a decent enough, but doting mom. She was proud of her kids and thought the whole world should be blessed with their antics. It wasn't attention seeking or income generating. She just had a blind spot, assuming that because she wouldn't dream of doing that, no one else would. And it is sad, to me, that she was robbed if that innocence in a very visceral way; but she did learn a valuable lesson and never forgot it, either

[–] [email protected] 11 points 8 months ago (3 children)

I think we need to agree to disagree here. Being a parent in this world is (depending on your social status) a dangerous project that asks for a lot of responsibility.

A billion things can happen and it can kill, maim, traumatize or change your kid forever. I know because I have been one of those kids who grew up under „naive“ parents. Its hell. Life is hell afterwards.

So this is definitely triggering for me and I‘m not gonna give in to my instincts here since nobody deserves to go through what I went through. Suffice it to say that naive parents are not fit to be parents imo.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Most people are not fit to be parents.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago

IMO the problem is that we expect at most 2 people to share the responsibilities of parenting, when we should be sharing that responsibility across like 20 people or even more.

The idea of one or two people solely raising a child is insane, for most of human history children have been collectively raised by the tribe/village.

We're not solitary predators god damnit, we're one of the most social species on this planet! If even cats share the responsibility of raising children whenever they're able to, it should be pretty clear that we're not made to raise them on our own either.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I'm sorry for your experience, and do hope you find the healing to alleviate triggers. I wish you all the best on your journey.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago

Thank you very much!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago (1 children)

It's a super difficult line to walk.

I don't mean to minimise the problems you've encountered at all.

I'm a new parent and just trying to figure all of this out. There's always competing guidance, information, and interests to be weighed. It's not easy to make the right choices.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago

Yes, its one of the reasons I decided not to have children. the most people arent this naive or even plain abusive or negligent. You saying that its actually not just easy to do shows that you're most likely not the problem. the people who are the problem immediately discard it or make fun of it.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago (3 children)

Just wait until you hear about all the ways parents used to also fail their children.

Technological literacy is ideal, but lacking it is hardly a failure of character.

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[–] [email protected] 39 points 8 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 27 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Close relation with Sharting

[–] [email protected] 8 points 8 months ago

I would go for shit parenting

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago

The Shartening

[–] [email protected] 31 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

I wonder what they consider oversharing. Where exactly is that line?

The first article will require parents to officially declare the use of their children's image online to the Italian Communications Regulatory Authority (AGCOM). If a direct profit is gained from these activities, parents will have to transfer the money to a bank account in the child's name, which will be accessible to the child after they turn 18 years old.

Interesting because I think most family channels do it for money now, though as part of a college fund may work. If you have multiple kids and parents in a video how will it be divied up?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 8 months ago (1 children)

We don't really need college founds in Italy, the fee for a middle class family is around 2k a year

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

That for 4 years and living expense ain't nothing.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago

Sure, but nothing close to 60k a year

[–] [email protected] 19 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Thought sharenting meant split custody situations, was confused. Am a little high.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 8 months ago (1 children)

That’s a good idea. Think I’m gonna get high myself

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago

Pretty great. I munched a brownie, made pancakes and watched a movie.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 8 months ago

Same. And I wasn't even high.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 8 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 11 points 8 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 9 points 8 months ago (1 children)

From the article:

sharenting—a contraction between share and *parenting, *that indicates the practice of oversharing content portraying children on social media platforms.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago

It's a portmanteau really - unless this is another American English difference.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

I'd rather see them put a lot of effort into educating folks instead. If they're well educated about how everything works, this issue, and others in the future, would be addressed.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 8 months ago

The parents are already "burned" and wont change from some info campaign. The abuse starts before school or even kindergarden age so there is no chance to educate the victims.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 8 months ago

As someone who's always hated being publicized, yes pls.

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