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[–] [email protected] 79 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (3 children)

My ex-girlfriend worked at a restaurant and they had an annual staff party which was just a house party at the manager's house. When we opened the door and started taking our shoes off one of the new server girls was shouting at the manager "Don't call me Lonestar!" and he was like "Yeah whatever Lonestar" and she screamed at the top of her lungs "DON'T CALL ME FUCKING LONESTAR!!!" and shoved him hard, he fell backwards and landed on his ass and she screamed a battle cry and started punching holes in the drywall, busting up her knuckles and bleeding everywhere. We put our shoes back on and just left. She got fired

[–] [email protected] 59 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

That's.. Not really a couple dispute, is it? Still, pretty funny lol

[–] [email protected] 27 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

He had the hots for her but I guess that doesn't really count

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

β€œI can fix Lonestar.”

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 weeks ago

She should've just given him the raspberry.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 weeks ago (6 children)

What's up with the calling Lonestar?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 weeks ago

Now you see that evil will always triumph, because good is dumb.

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[–] [email protected] 58 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (9 children)

My ex-spouse accused me of cheating on him.

.....with a character in the video game.

.....because I "clearly love him more that you love me!"

Whenever he'd be upset (for whatever reason), he would snap and say "Why don't you go talk to the person you actually love??" before giving me the silent treatment until he needed something.

It was the beginning of the end.

Don't miss it lol

EDIT: oh fuck, I forgot.. he actually sold our PS4 containing the game/save file completely out of the blue a few months after his first accusation, without telling me first. The game in question was "Stardew Valley". He was a shitty little man.

[–] [email protected] 27 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

What I'm reading is he was right on the money about the pixel character being a more appealing love interest.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 weeks ago

Wet moldy socks were a more appealing love interest.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 weeks ago

Imagine if Clint & Shane were combined.

It was baaaaaad lol

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Was it the poet who lives on the beach? That was the only one I'd have been threatened by

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Wifey found your post very insightful and also funny. Despite not being funny. As we're currently in a stardew-marathon and she (being not a hardcore gamer) asked me if I knew if anyone ever fell in love with an NPC. I didn't knew, then I stumbled upon your comment and showed her 😁

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 weeks ago

Lol, my girlfriend says she always marries Sebastian because he reminds her of me. I hope that's a good thing. She wants me to play but I struggle getting into top-down games πŸ˜•

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[–] [email protected] 54 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

Whether apple stems are perpendicular or parallel to the surface of the fruit.

[–] [email protected] 32 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Incidental Tangent to the surface where the stem starts.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 weeks ago (6 children)
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[–] [email protected] 28 points 3 weeks ago

Considering that it was about topology, that might very well be the smartest couple's dispute I've ever heard of.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Now, that's an interesting discussion!

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 weeks ago

Is the answer not both? Depending on what part of the stem?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 weeks ago

No thats totally fair argument.

[–] [email protected] 52 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

Whether a specific colour was green or yellow. We eventually looked up the RGB value to settle it, and as it turns out it is the exact shade that's halfway to yellow and halfway to green.

We were both equally correct in the end.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 weeks ago

So it was chartreuse.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Was this a debate about tennis balls? My spouse and I have had this exact disagreement!

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 weeks ago

Not tennis balls, no. Quite frankly I can't remember what it was. Just the colour stuck πŸ˜…

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Colour theory is extremely complicated and you can't really tell from an RGB value in isolation that it represent a colour "exactly halfway" between green and yellow. Colour is perceptual, not a physical phenomenon, and this has significant meaningful consequences. But I'm glad you found a narrative that saved your marriage.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

Yellow is Red + Green, so half way between Yellow and Green would be what, 50% Red + 100% Green?

Like you said, color is perceptual, and not only will everyone's eyes have a slightly different sensitivity for each wavelength, each display will have a slightly different calibration for its RGB channels.
If the original color was in real life, the camera sensor would also be taking the full light spectrum and collapsing it into 3 RGB values, and the camera sensor's sensitivity/calibration will determine the ratio it converts a yellow wavelength into red and green. (Or maybe the real object isn't actually yellow, but pure red-+green light, it's impossible to tell after converting to RGB)

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Did you date my former coworker? I used to use a chartreuse coathanger because it was the only one of that color, which made it easy for me to spot. One day, as I was putting my coat away, this coworker started talking as if we were already mid-way through an argument. "It's so green. I don't know why you said it's yellow." Huh? I had no idea what he was talking about at first. I asked if he meant my coathanger, and I responded that I didn't know what color it was. (I didn't know what "chartreuse" meant yet.) He ranted on, claiming we fought about it once before, even though this was the first time he'd even talked about my coathanger. It was bizarre.

I think that guy had something psychologically troubling going on. I'd also seen him: ask a question, make up an answer for that question, then immediately proceed to believe the answer he made up with 100% certainty. The question? "How do those Magic Eraser cleaning sponges work?" His answer? "They use paint." I asked how it could possibly match the color of every surface it's used on, but he insisted his answer must be right. Truly magical thinking.

I also saw him watch an ad for a random product, then promptly declare that he needed that product. I had always thought of ads as something to tune out, but he legit followed them as if they were friends giving advice. I had never seen anything like that.

[–] [email protected] 40 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

They had a whole stupid argument about… Cheese. It went from small arguing to actual conflict.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Look, cheese is serious eats. And business.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 weeks ago

One time I was at a specialty beer and cheese shop and I saw this guy pushing a cart alone with two children. He generally looked beaten down and glum. The kids are rambunctious, he’s exhausted, wife is missing but obviously in the store with them.

He is browsing the cases, killing time waiting for his wife to come back. He grabs a small block of cheese, looks interested it and adds it to the cart.

A few minutes later, the wife returns and immediately spots the cheese block. She picks it up and screams β€œ$10? For a block of cheese you haven’t even TRIED yet? Absolutely not.”

Then she hurled it back in the case and stomped off while he sullenly followed her with the cart and kids

[–] [email protected] 35 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

We disagreed for years about the color of our couch. I called it brown. He called it blue. It was a weird grayish brown colored couch, but because it was labeled "slate" when he bought it, he insisted it was blue. We then added a teal blue couch to our house which just solidified my "this is the brown couch" position. We do not, to this day, agree. Eventually we got rid of the couch.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 3 weeks ago

A similar debate with my partner is how I'm found out I'm colorblind lol

[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

When you say you got rid of it, is it for sale? I'm in the market for a blue couch

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Poor couch πŸ˜₯

One can also have endless arguments about the color turquoise. Is it rather green, or rather blue? Same as teal I guess.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 weeks ago

A couch is for life, not just for Christmas.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

One can also have endless arguments about the color turquoise. Is it rather green, or rather blue?

The answer to that question is "no".
It's turquoise. You wouldn't argue about whether orange is yellow or red, either.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Do you still have the picture? We'd love to see.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 weeks ago (7 children)

This is the couch up against our old mantle with painted brown bricks (we didn't do that, we were renting)

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 weeks ago

Hi, after seeing the couch I just want to say I'm not interested in purchasing it any more. I'm looking for a blue couch and that one is clearly brown. Thanks.

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

So this was part of a much bigger discussion and turned out in reality to be mostly due to some unaddressed mental health issues. But on the tail end of an argument, y'know when you're starting to talk nice again and resolve things, I said something like it's okay, sometimes you're just a sad pancake. She burst into tears because she wanted to be a waffle. Hormones and mental health are wild, y'all.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 weeks ago

mostly due to some unaddressed mental health issues.

I expect all the stories to be this. Why am I in this thread??

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 weeks ago

An ex wanted to break up because she was still in love with her ex. Her ex is in prison for decades after going on a rampage against homeless people and critically wounding at least a few. Live happybadger reaction: shrug-outta-hecks

[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

Hard water vs soft water.

So many times we've been in a hotel room and I've taken a shower and commented on what soft water it is because it feels like the soap never rinses off and I feel slippery all over. She always tries to correct me by calling it hard water. She grew up in a desert city that has naturally hard water, so she'll always say, "I know what hard water is, I grew up with hard water!" when the "hard" water she grew up with was softened by some means. It doesn't matter how many articles and blog posts and ChatGPT sessions on the topic I show her, she always insists they're wrong and she's right. We argued about it a few times in the past, but now it's a running joke between us.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (2 children)

I attacked my wife on the Game of Thrones board game while she was at 6 castles and I was at 4.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

It has become an ongoing issue that my wife complains that she smells something, then gets angry at me if I am unable to smell that same smell, sometimes accusing me of gas lighting her or calling her a liar, when actually I just don't smell the smell she's smelling.

I'm not making implications or accusations, I'm not trying to mislead or confuse her, I just can't smell whatever she's smelling and that fact frustrates the heck out of her as though I'm personally letting her down. Then she gets a bit aggro and I have to change the garbages / kitchen compost in the hopes that perhaps those are the sources of the smells I can't smell. Sometimes that helps. She will never change the garbage or take out the compost herself.

When she insisted that she smelled a gas leak from our furnace that I couldn't smell, we called a professional who confirmed our furnace was working fine and there was no gas leak; but I was still the villain for denying the gas leak ahead of time. Three times in the last 6 months this has been a thing.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 weeks ago

My wife also has a better sense of smell then me. We don't fight about it but I have spent a bunch of time trying to find the phantom smell.

She's pregnant now and her super smell is even more potent. So I had to do a lot of kitchen cleaning and I had to a lot of cooking. It's a thing for sure

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 weeks ago

My wife's siblings and her all have the same weird trait: when things get stressful, they clam up and do this "shut up and let me save the world" thing. Her sister's worked on it a lot because #fireman, but it's a strong compulsion.

The "hmm, maybe if you'd talked to anyone instead of going missing-person" is extra fun when it's a tech thing, as after the stress and the teeth-pulling contextual questions, it's two mouse clicks and an object lesson.

And, when THAT fight's over....

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