[Migrated, see pinned post] Casual Conversation

"we ball"

"Run what ya brung" It means solve your ussue with what you have with you right now.

"Don't be a dick, be a dude."

No idea what it's from but a friend of mine used to say it to me all the time.

"It's going to be ok". Because the vast majority of the time things are! It might take a really long time to settle, it might be really rough but things do pass. Life gets OK again

You have to take care of yourself, because noone else will. As in trust yourself, and don't rely on others to act in your interests. Doesn't mean act like an asshole, but this is what I have learned so far.

A rising tide lifts all boats.

I do what I can to promote advancement and share knowledge with my peers.

I'm going to regret this

Treat others as you wish to be treated yourself and be the change you want to see in the world.

You wouldn't believe how angry that first part makes people.

"Life sucks and then you die."

"One day at a time."

"Good things don't happen."

Then when they do, it's nice... but they usually don't.

Be excellent to each other and party on dudes.

A good reminder to be kind and enjoy the time I've got.

It's never black and white. It's always more complicated if you care to look.

"Fuck Off!" /s But seriously it's "Always be yourself, all the time. Don't care what others think of you." There will be many times in life when others make it hard to be yourself, if you stick with it, you will always be able to respect yourself for being authentic and honest. And other people's opinions are just that, opinions. And trying to live up to someone else's idea of who you should be is a waste of time. Live up to your own expectations of who you are.

"I need to do my best to be a better version of myself."

Its important to not only acknowledge personal flaws but to work on improving them. Throughout my life when ive been negatively affected by people around me with bad attiudes and mental complexes their no.1 shield has always been "They can't help it, thats just how they are."

I hate that statement more than most political ideologies. I rebel against the truths buried in it with every fiber of my being. I'm a firm believer that, regardless of diagnosis or poor life circumstances, on some level you need take personal responsibility for your negative personality traits and poor life choices made. Its our moral responsibility to self-improve and change our nature for the better if we have any hope of working out of this mess.

I was in a bad spot with not liking myself , still am kind of, and needed to to truly believe I could change. I needed it more than anything. I needed to believe that you could change your mind/life if you never give up at it, and put in the work to do so. I am convinced that attitudes lead to self fufilling phophecy. Hard effort and introspection are required in order to truly change the nature of a person so they can become better than they were.

But its hard. Hard to make a better choice in a negative situation, hard to walk away from arguments before they happen and hold yourself back from tantrums. Hard to look at yourself in the mirror and stare into the ugliest parts of your being. Hard to move past the emotional traumas that contribute to your shitty behavior. Even harder to root out and confront the heart of darkness that lives deep in the subconscious. To come to terms with the fact you will never truly shed being an imperfect emotionally whacky sentient ape, but can learn to process and act in healthier ways.

Slip, slide through life......

..... The idea being to live phelegmatically.....

"Never go to a secondary location." This has been surprisingly helpful.

If it feels good do it

Never ever bloody anything ever.

"today is the best day of the year"

Don't ever, for any reason, do anything to anyone for any reason ever, no matter what, no matter where, or who, or who you are with, or where you are going, or where you've been... ever, for any reason whatsoever...

"Insert life motto or mantra here."