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[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 hours ago (2 children)

If you're interested then go ask.
Don't try to figure it all out ahead of time.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (1 children)

"Hey i think you're really cool! Want to go [grab a coffee] with me?"

[Any low stakes public social activity]

Bonus points if you tailor it to shared interests.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

she told me she doesn’t want to go outside because men stare at her and it makes her embarrassed

we both are raised in strict hanafi families

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 hours ago

Ah then any safe space for her in which you can get to know eachother but gives her an easy exit if she wants.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 hours ago

You could ask

[–] [email protected] 6 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Well she came up to me and hit on me once. Later she signed some paperwork to make me her wife. I'm pretty sure she likes me after all that

[–] [email protected] 5 points 14 hours ago

She could be Canadian. Keep your wits about you and watch for signs..

[–] [email protected] 27 points 21 hours ago

When you are in a circle of friends they will stand slightly closer to you then anyone else and when you talk they seem to pay more attention to what you are saying compared to what the group is discussing.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 17 hours ago

What's the context and age? Does she laugh at your jokes more than with other people's jokes? Really it's hard to know because you need to first establish the person's baseline.

Like for example whoever suggested the hair behind the ear thing, it could be, but it also could be that they do that too often. I'm one of these too oftens for hair behind the ear and I tend to gesture more at my ears too because I can't always hear perfectly.

So, yeah there's a hundred tell tale signs but you first need to have something to compare them to.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 21 hours ago (2 children)

there's a lot of local/cultural factors

best is to just listen to your inner voice, i guess.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 hours ago

Mine just says "KILL GOKU KILL GOKU"

[–] [email protected] 2 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

There sure is no all encompassing, easy answer, but that is a little off. Like telling a color blind person to "just look at the color".

[–] [email protected] 6 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

I think the better advice is to find a trusted friend in one's local culture instead of troll-y internet randos who could be on the other side of the world.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

The hair behind ear thing with eye contact

[–] [email protected] 19 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Be careful with this one. As someone who has to be intentional about making eye contact, it does not mean I like you.

And moving hair is just... moving hair.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) (1 children)

Agreed, as one with long hair I do the thing with pushing them behind my ears so it won't be in my face

[–] [email protected] 3 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

it won’t be in my faec

face or feces/faeces? Probably makes a difference.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

The woman who makes direct eye contact with you while adjusting her ass crack hairs definitely has some sort of feelings towards you.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 hours ago

That's no lady, that's my wife!