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[–] [email protected] 26 points 4 days ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 13 points 4 days ago

smoking everywhere

[–] [email protected] 13 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

I’m so fucking glad we’ve stopped calling women “hysterical” whenever we don’t believe them. That word is so blatantly misogynistic and it seems to be dying out now.

[–] [email protected] 71 points 5 days ago

Smoking everywhere. For anyone who wasn't around for the 70s/80s/90s, everything was tinged yellow and smelled of smoke. Car/plane/train seats had built-in ashtrays. Restaurants had smoking sections separated from the non-smoking sections by waist-high walls.

I have asthma and it sucked. Not sure if I grew out of it as I got older or if there's just not a miasma of smoke around everywhere, but it rarely bothers me anymore.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 4 days ago

Leaded gas.

[–] [email protected] 82 points 6 days ago (24 children)

Not 100% gone yet, but gas powered yard tools are dying. Battery powered tools are just better in 99% of use cases.

Two stroke engines do seem dead though which is awesome, because mixed gas was a massive pain in the ass.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 days ago

Oh god I want to gift ALL OF MY NEIGHBOURS BATTERY LEAF BLOWERS. I bought one, it's amazing, and we're about to go into autumn 🤢

[–] [email protected] 22 points 6 days ago

I had a 11kW two-stroke motorbike and while it was very important for my rural youth, I do not want it back. Fuck the constant oil refueling, fuck the fumes, fuck the noise. If I ever get a motorbike again, it'd be electric.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I remember fighting with gas weed whackers endlessly as a teen trying to do chores… having to dick with the choke for a cold start, having to pump prime them (and it being possible to over prime and lock them out), then you had to carry them around and use them with the exhaust at steak searing temperature… and if you didn’t know how to tune an idle they’d just die in your hands if you didn’t goose the throttle occasionally

This is a great one - don’t miss small gas engines even a little bit lol

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 6 days ago

The fumes and noise of those little engines makes me excited that the battery versions are taking over.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago

Smoking everywhere and anywhere. Younger folks have no idea how ubiquitous it was, not to sound boomerish, but everything smelled so bad, and people would smoke in places that would shock you now, like in hospitals they would smoke in the nurses station, if you walked into a clothing store at the mall they'd be smoking at the counter, etc. Even when they did things like making that glass room for smokers at Tim Hortons, I once saw a woman sitting in there with her toddler in a stroller puffing away. It was actually amazing that anyone put a stop to public smoking because so many people did it.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 5 days ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 61 points 6 days ago (12 children)

At the risk of becoming too anti-casual, anti-gay slurs were so common in the US up until the mid/late 90s, if you weren't there for it you just have no idea. One of the Bill and Ted movies (I think the first one?) just randomly dropping it in there as a joke, where the slur is the joke, is a good example of just how it was then. There's still bigotry but it's not as casual and pervasive.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

Objectively, dial-up.

Otoh, what I would really badly like to become a thing again is actual media ownership, ie. not having streaming services randomly yank your stuff away from you.

Also, I would nominate the fact that the 'It's obsolete as soon as you get it in the door' meme hasn't been valid for decades now, but hardware manufacturers, Windows itself, and the game industry are trying really hard to make that a thing again seemingly.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Yup! Spotify removing things off my playlists was a big initial factor into me getting into self hosting. All my music streams through Plex now and I haven't looked back

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Even DRM-free storefronts like 7Digital for music or GOG for games aren't immune to random delistings.

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[–] [email protected] 41 points 6 days ago (3 children)

Dial-up internet. I would open a website and go do something else for a minute until it loads, then fight with my parents when they pick up the phone when I've been downloading something for 3 hours.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 6 days ago (1 children)

We had very late internet infrastructure upgrade, so at the end we had a bluetooth dial-up internet router in the early 2010s...

[–] [email protected] 19 points 6 days ago

Internet over bluetooth is a crime against humanity

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[–] [email protected] 40 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 13 points 5 days ago

May he rot into nothing and be forgotten

[–] [email protected] 28 points 5 days ago

Women having to get husband’s permission to open a bank account (speaking of the US).

[–] [email protected] 17 points 5 days ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago

For anyone that doesn't know, dog food used to contain a lot of bone meal; as dog poop degraded (?), the bone meal would remain. Hence white dog poop. I think that this changed due to tighter regulations on pet food.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

This is probably completely uninteresting to everyone else, but this has re-surfaced an old memory for me. I had a really dull data entry job one summer, and the crowd I worked with included a few odd figures. One particular guy was always making jokes that were just a bit too edgy for the workplace, especially amongst a bunch of people that didn't know him well enough to know how much he meant any of it. For some reason, completely unprompted, he brought up that "you never see white dog turds any more". Everyone heard this as "white doctors" and immediately winced in anticipation of some incoming racism, and everyone still heard it that way when he tried to clarify several times. Turns out no, it was 100% innocent, just weird.

He was fired for unrelated reasons a few weeks later; he had gone to the nearby pub on his lunch break and had several pints

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago

goals, honestly

[–] [email protected] 33 points 6 days ago (1 children)

The lack of privacy, independence, and freedom that generally comes with childhood.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 5 days ago (10 children)

It's not "gone", but the notion of it being "acceptable" is gone:

Using 'retard' as a slur, not only for people with intellectual disabilities but also just for people or things you think were stupid.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 4 days ago

Using ‘retard’ as a slur, not only for people with intellectual disabilities

That's actually the one group of people I've never seen anyone call that, lol.

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[–] [email protected] 31 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 days ago

Also acid rain. Two massive environmental Ws that aren't celebrated enough.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 5 days ago (2 children)

George W. Bush's presidency. I don't know what the kids are smoking when they say current republicans make him look "classy" or that Trump's first term was worse than his. He bred a constant state of paranoia and xenophobia and used it to justify killing countless people in the middle east. The damage done to that part of the world is staggering and everyone just treats it like background noise.

Also that decade post-SpongeBob where every kid's cartoon was about a loud, annoying, dumb guy.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago

Imagine being 6 years old and your mother hugging you while crying. You have no electricity. It's night time. Artillery shell explosions followed by the crumbling buildings and injured crying in pain are the only break you get from your mother's sounds of sobbing. They're destroying your entire block, but what you feel is terror. You can look out a window and see flashes. You don't even know what politics or weapons of mass destruction. You're just there scared until you die. You wonder what you did for this to happen. Now imagine hundreds of that same experience per night.

That never makes it into the news. I would love to see people's responses. Show the child and mother live. Then, people are randomly asked, "Push button to kill this person immediately or you will be put in jail and shamed for life." Let's see how they react to that guilt for eternity.

There's a quote from Game of Thrones that I think of often. The setting is that 3 brutal high-class leaders have to decide which one of them will die as punishment. They start getting nervous, so Tyrion says:

It always seems a bit abstract, doesn't it, other people dying?

I find it validating.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

GWB definitely had a scarier presidency than Trumps first term for sure. but this second term is unlike anything I've ever seen

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 6 days ago (7 children)

I'm glad that Furbys, inflatable furniture, and disposable cameras are no longer mainstream. And may they never return.

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 5 days ago

Medicine in general has gotten a lot better. I'm also able to buy stuff like silken tofu without having to drive quite far to find a specialty store that sells it.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 5 days ago (6 children)

Pagers. Having to find a pay phone. Looking through newspapers for jobs. Absolutely gutless emissions- strangled malaise era cars with horrible brakes and numb steering.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 6 days ago
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