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like, it's still dark at 5pm, there are barely any sports on, still bitterly cold and austere and it hurts to go outside, but you're not even looking forward to christmas or the new year. the new year is here, and it's largely the same as last year. except you're getting older.

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[–] [email protected] 110 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children)

Happiness, excitement and anticipation are cycles. In order to experience them again to their full, you must allow them to fade for awhile. Trying to hold onto them for too long is causing you more grief than the actual lack of them in the moment.

Take a moment to breathe, and appreciate where you are, what you have, and who you've shared it with, before you rush onward.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 10 months ago

I just like sleeping until 10 every day.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago

V nice

Buddhism in essence

[–] [email protected] 40 points 10 months ago (1 children)

You could do what they do in colder places and buy brightly colored stuff for your place. It’ll still be dark outside but at least the inside will look cheerier.

You could also try planning some beginning of the year parties with friends. That would certainly give you events to look forward to.

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[–] [email protected] 36 points 10 months ago (1 children)

It's not the best strategy, but if your holiday season is just a giant mess of chaos and stress the return to a normal schedule can be very welcome.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 10 months ago

Yeah I was going to say, soulless drudgery sounds like a release at this point.

[–] [email protected] 35 points 10 months ago (1 children)

We’re past the winter solstice. Take note of the sun setting a bit earlier each day. That always gives me a boost because I can look at my phone and see that condition improving. Good luck!

[–] [email protected] 46 points 10 months ago (2 children)

You mean setting later each day?

It’s getting lighter in the evenings already!

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago

Ha! Dumbass mistyping. Thanks, you're right.

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[–] [email protected] 34 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Micro dose lcd

Edit: lol I'm leaving the autocorrect, funnier

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago (1 children)

You're right, I should spend less time with an lcd in my face.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

and an oled, and an micro led

[–] [email protected] 32 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Celebrating the quarter and cross quarter days can work for atheists, science fans and Pagans alike. You get a holiday every month and a half. You can simply celebrate the changing of seasons/Earth's relative position to the Sun or get all magick with it, as you like. The quarter days are the solstices and equinoxes, the cross quarter days are the points in between. Halloween (Samhain) and May Day (Beltane) are the famous cross quarter days, but they happen in winter (Imbolc, Feb 1- also known as Groundhog Day) and summer (Lammas/Lunasa, Aug1).

https://www.almanac.com/quarter-days-and-cross-quarter-days

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[–] [email protected] 28 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Don't take down your Christmas lights (inside at least). Make hot chocolate at home, create rituals for yourself

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 10 months ago (1 children)

ABP…. Means, Always Be Planning.

Plan for the next vacation, and do it before the end of the current one. I don’t mean just talk about it. Set some plans, put down deposits, whatever.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

This method works well for me. Having something to look forward to is always a good thing. I try to schedule some kind of small trip or event every month.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I don't know where you're at, but I take a weekly trip to a greenhouse. I'm not a plant person unless they're plastic, but it really does give a nice vitamin D boost and the smells are usually amazing. Take a stroll, many of them have benches where you can sit and contemplate. Mine even does a Sunday yoga class that you can watch or join. It gets me through the doldrums.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago

I moved to Edmonton, AB from the US South and holy crap, the darkness is unreal. Even the locals struggle with this pitch-black 4pm nonsense.

That said, the city has a lot of focus on indoor spaces that really saves it. I used to go to West Ed mall just to walk around somewhere without a coat for free, you know?

The real gem of the city is the Muttart Conservatory though - and a year-long pass is like $30?? For an indoor rainforest??

Makes it worth living in the winter.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago

Trips to greenhouses and conservatories are a great idea for a good number of reasons. However, don't read the rest of this if you don't want any spoilers.

spoilerGreenhouses, in general, may not be a very reliable way to get a nice vitamin D boost. I'll spare you the details, but most of the covering materials specifically developed for greenhouse use will significantly reduce or outright block UV light. You may still get some limited UV exposure, but you wouldn't want to go into that situation with the expectation of getting a nice boost in vitamin D from it.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 10 months ago (1 children)

The holidays are a drain and I'm grateful they're over with. We've got better things we could be doing.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

This is me as well. The stress of the holidays brings me to the brink of collapse until I get to go back to normalcy again. I hate December.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (7 children)

Re:depression/ing

Highly recommend bright light therapy the moment you wake up or at the desired wakeup time. I can't imagine what it must be like for those unaware of these things, the darkness would have me on the brink

Imma do a second "dose" right now, the alternative reality makes me shudder

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago (6 children)

Adding onto this, I recommend a sunrise alarm. I wake up at 5 am every morning and it makes the transition from sleep much jarring.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 10 months ago (1 children)

You dont need permission to make a day special op

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Taking down my Yule decor, setting up for Imbolc!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago

Yes! This is the true solution to the holiday blues (and may other problems). Become Pagan. Our celebrations are 13 + 8 every year, plus multiple life events and "because I want to" times.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 10 months ago

Organize events with friends. Half or our weekends are books with 5 to 10 people coming home. We play boardgame and eat far to much cheese.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 10 months ago

What are you talking about? Christmas isn't even over yet; we're currently on day 9 of 12. Keep celebrating!

[–] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Go to Australia . Failing that, take Vitamin D

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago (2 children)

If you live somewhere with a good variety of different cultures, most of them probably have an association of some kind, which often host events that let them share their holidays and traditions with the larger population. Try to track down their local event calendars and show up whenever you can. I live in a medium sized city with decent sized Hispanic, Indian, Vietnamese, and Native American populations, and between the lot of them there's ALWAYS something going on - and for me personally, 99% of it is stuff I've never even heard of, so it's a completely new experience every time (vs trying to drag out the more familiar holiday feels by leaving the xmas lights up until March lol).

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

Lol you are absolutely right! Some Indians have a major holiday coming up in 15 days. It is based on rice harvest. Its a whole shebang for 3 days.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 10 months ago

Can i interest you in rugby. The six nations starts on Feb 2nd. It's a godsend in an otherwise grim time of year.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I take my time putting up Christmas (as others mentioned the season traditionally lasts until Epiphany (Jan 6), and some traditions don’t even celebrate it until that day.) usually somewhere between the first nutcracker and last ornament I transition from missing Christmas to looking forward to being done with it.

Then I transition that into “spring cleaning”. I clean out the attic before moving the Christmas boxes back into storage, and tackle other areas that accumulated junk and boxes over the past year.

Like a lot of people, I also like to try something new or different. It can be as simple as a new tv show or streaming service, new author, new video game, or a new recipe, new hobby, etc. maybe go to the movies a few times or eat out somewhere special.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

I second the cleaning. It can be super satisfying.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Have you tried No Undies Mondays?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)

No, but I kind of wanna now.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

Everybodys doin it

[–] [email protected] 9 points 10 months ago (1 children)

We often take a small vacation about January and go someplace warm.

I am not a morning person, but force myself to get up and go to work at 7 to maximize my daylight hours.

I have also found that bright lights help. The light bulbs in our house are bright. At work I have a lamp on my desk with three led bulbs (3 bulb adapter and slightly bigger shade). I got the idea from a podcaster that has 2 lamps on his desk for winter.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 10 months ago

Look up the cultural practice / philosophy of “hygge” it’s basically meant to answer this (but extends beyond just winter months too).

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Go blackout drunk for 347 days straight and voila, it's Christmas again!

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago

I look forward to this part of the year because it's when winter sports begin. I don't know if you're somewhere you can take advantage of the weather and ski/curl/skate. If you are, do it. It's a blast.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Make your own holiday, see a therapist, find a new hobby or something you enjoy watching other than sports, read a book? Just a few ideas.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago

Figure out a new hobby or skill to learn.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago (1 children)

There are barely any sports on? Hockey is on nearly every single day. Football playoffs start in two weeks. College championship is next Monday. NBA is on if you're desperate. If you're not American get yourself a VPN and watch anyway!

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)

My friend's family throws a Groundhog Day party every year

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

Besides everything else, Martin Luther King gave us a sorely-needed January holiday. If you want to do it right, make plans to do something selfless that day. It might even lead to you continuing to do that thing or work with that group, and exercise those human kindness muscles, developing the content of your character. Or it might just be the once, and that's okay. Or maybe the best you can muster is to raise a glass and thank Martin for the 3-day weekend. It's still something to get your head past this slump. By Groundhog Day you'll be seeing that little bit more daylight that brings hope.

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