Haha my yard is also a mess although that doesn’t bother me. It’s got lots of little nooks and crannies for critters to hide, lots of leaf litter, multiple stories of vegetation. It’s hands off but I plant something back there once or twice a year. I get a fair amount of wildlife back there, including forest-obligate bird species so even though few people would call it beautiful, I think I’m doing OK with it.
Maybe we should have a no-judgement day or thread so people can post their yards without worrying how close they are to the platonic ideal of a perfect native plant garden.