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It’s not about being in your thirties. What you are experiencing is depression.
You’re rationalizing and justifying your depression by associating it with age and portraying it as an unavoidable rite of passage. I don’t say this to try and change the course of your life, I just think it’s worth addressing your demons by their real names. It makes everything a lot easier, even if you really do decide in the end not to fight them.
Just my 2c, wishing all the best to you
Ok thanks
My dude.
I'm nearly 50. I still go to the gym, lift, run, and give a shit about what I eat. I care about how I look, even if I'm never going to be happy with it.
This shit matters, unless you want to be barely functional when you're my age, and not functional at all when you're in your 70s. You're betting that you aren't going to make it into your 50s, but that's a really bad bet to make unless you're willing to act on your nihilism to ensure that you don't.
But I'm not you though. I bet you're a more functional and successful specimen of a human being than me. I'm not, even when I was in shape. There's no point.
Shut the fuck up and move your body. It's literally never too late.
No, and there's no reason to be rude
The time you spend on here whining and complaining that everything is pointless is time you could be spending on a walk, doing yoga, having fun swimming...
I apologize for the rude remark, but you need to realize that the only obstacle between you and "being in good shape" is yourself.
Although you should probably see a mental health professional about your self-defeating attitude first.
I don't see the point of it. I already explained why.
You don't need to see the point of it to do it anyway. Why are you accepting defeat in this situation? Why aren't you angry?
Get mad. Get your body moving. Force your body to start producing some feel good chemicals and you will have one more tiny bit of leverage against your brain, which is actively lying to you right now if you are indeed depressed.
Because I'm done and tired. I don't wanna look better or feel better. I just don't wanna feel anything.
See a doctor. Your brain is lying to you and you may need medication to begin feeling normal again.
No.
I don't understand why are you getting all worked up like I'm attacking you, can you just let me be? Is that really so hard to accept that I will never think like you? Especially when I didn't asked for any type of advice I'm just putting my thoughts on a public place and respectfully disagreeing with the people here.
Eww. Grow up and love yourself, dude.
No
These are thoughts and feelings you might have when you reach your 60’s or 70’s. You are a “young ‘un”. Please talk with someone in person, be it a counselor, dietician, doctor or friend.
No, but thank you for your interest.
Temporary depression is no reason to harm your future. You will care in 30 years when your knees hurt because you've been carrying extra weight for 30 years. "Latinos don't believe in diets" is a ridiculous excuse. No one should be on a "diet". You eat whatever you want but in moderation at below your calorie requirements and you will lose weight.
I have no future dude I genuinely don't care. Also Latinos don't believe in eating small as well. Go ask any Latino household.
Latino here, you can't generalize what millions of people do or think about something.
I for one am in my forties and take good care of my body, I want to be as healthy as possible for the rest of my life so I can be happy and not a burden to my loved ones.
Seek help.
Good for you but you're minority. All people I've been surrounded and worked are fat and out of shape. Because they eat more and don't care about their look. Not a single one in 3 decades looked in shape except as kids and even then we all ate the same amount of "porquerias"
like majority of Latinos here (we don't believe in diets) and I don't care anymore.
bro Mexico and other latin countries have amazing food culture, y'all fucking got put on sugar and american goy slop over last 20 years to the point where you make americans feel "small"
MX alone provide some many things to the world... who does not love tomatoes? if that guys exists, he should be taken to the farm
go back to your cultural roots, that's some fucking great food and you should not be getting fat off it.
DON'T EAT THE TRASH CORPOS FEED YOU!
yeah I had that metabolism when young. I joke with my wife because im like. You learned to deal with it as a kid but I was unprepared :)
Is it possible you care less because you're married? I see that a lot.
I've never been with a woman in my life, no girlfriends or relationships. I'm undesirable by nature.
Similar situation. Grew up skinny, no matter what I ate. It got to the point where I kind of gave up early on to get a "beach body".
In my 20's I got reasonably comfortable with myself, as it turned out that I did fairly OK no matter my shape.
I never really tried to get into shape except when I was practicing karate a few years ago and it became really apparent that my stamina was awful.
Now I'm a middle aged dude, and I don't really care, I'm doing fine. I'm blessed with genes that prevent me from getting fat and losing my hair, so I don't see why I would want to change anything.
Same here. But you'll kind of start to care again when your doctor starts giving papers with lists of food you can eat on it.
I had a coworker with such a list. After being on a texan BBQ diet all his life, he now has to compensate through his lunches. When the rest of us grabbed a kebab or something similar, his lunch consisted of one (1) hard boiled egg.
It's a disheartening moment in life. Take care of your health.
I don't see how TX BBQ is at fault... unless he eats that shit every meal. It is good protein, just needs to be part of the balanced diet.
He prolly slurps soda and his idea of vegetable is potato salad...
our doctor starts giving papers with lists of food you can eat on it.
I don't understand how fucking quacks are the back stop to this shit... these rent seekers are about as reliable as vet sellign you pet food.
as always too late to really help but in time to profit off it
I recently realized I hadn't taken the time to appreciate the fact that I had the body of a teenager when I was a teenager, or the body of a 20-year-old when I was a 20-year-old, and I know I'm going to miss this body when I'm 40, so nowadays when I'm looking at my health I just go through the list of shit that's not wrong with me yet. helps out, sort of a morose gratitude mindset
I was about to comment on the health benefits (rather than looks), then I read that that also doesn't matter to you.
I suppose it's a lot less to think of, if that works for you, then great!