DeGoogle Yourself

Use a stable domain provider that has good security, like cloudflare, buy the domain for 10 years, and then every year have auto-renew setup; that gives you 9 years to fix any billing issues that pop up. Ensure you use domain privacy, so your information doesn't get released to the public whois database. Setup 2factor with the domain registrar, this is your online identity now, lock it down.

https://www.privacyguides.org/en/email/

Decide how you want to use email, fast mail is good if you don't care about encryption, tuta is good if you want all data to be encrypted at rest, and i hear good things about proton except they don't encrypt metadata at rest (but they do have bridges so you can use standard imap email clients)

You might want to setup some subdomains so you can categorize your email even more, setup catch-all addresses for each domain

I do this and I use Proton as my email provider. I think as long as you set the email security standards, which Proton, for example, teaches you how to do, you should be fine.

pitfalls or things I should take into consideration before I purchase a domain?

Make sure your chosen email provider supports DMARC. Since I'm sure someone is wondering, yes, Proton mail does.

Are my emails more likely to be sent to spam with a custom domain vs an email provider's?

Absolutely, but only if you choose not to setup DMARC and DKIM

Every mail provider, that I have encountered, that supports custom domain names, provides a detailed step by step guide for which DNS records to add. Follow the guide, don't skip any steps, and make sure to finish.

Register a domain with one provider, like Namecheap or Porkbun, set the nameservers to Custom and use another provider like Cloudflare to manage the DNS. That way if the registrar goes belly up, you don't lose DNS and can move registrars (nameservers should stay authoritative and cached for long enough to move providers). DNS control is usually enough to convince a new registrar that you control the domain.

If the DNS provider goes belly up, you can change the DNS provider at the registrar. If you keep DNS with your registrar, you risk not being able to do anything if they go down or out of business.

The domain doesnt really matter. The mail servers reputation is what really matters. If you aren't going to run your own mail server then you have nothing to be concerned about.

I did this years ago. I had read a bunch of scare stories about Google cutting people off from their Gmail accounts and having no path to appeal.

I setup a domain name that is just my full name .com and used a mail service like proton or titan mail. I setup a few accounts (shopping@, work@, games@, myname@, me@) and gave them aliases, for example Shopping has paypal@ and Amazon@.

It is extremely unlikely anyone will want my domain name, so if my mail provider closes down or kicks me out I can just find another and repoint my DNS records to the new one.

I recently had issues with my DNS registrar primary servers going down, and titan mail was costing more than I liked when the renewal came up, so I've now moved to porkbun and mxroute and I'm very happy.

I have started using PurelyMail, and own my domain through cloudflare. If I ever have problems with PurelyMail I would just need to adjust some settings in cloudflare to move to a different provider.

I've been using Zoho mail with a namecheap domain and had no significant issues, besides being marked as spam maybe once or twice?