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I'll start: if they have hobbies it's a green flag for sure, doubly so if their hobbies are outlets for creativity.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I definitely agree with the hobby bit. I've talked to plenty of people that don't have any hobbies or any passion for anything and they are just so soul draining to be around. I find with these folks you cannot have a good conversation with, either they don't know about the topic, or any topic or they only answer in one or two word responses. They are just a black hole of any excitement or energy.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Ugh, this one hurts to read. I have plenty of hobbies and interests, but for whatever reason it feels so painful and awkward to discuss them with people i'm not already decently acquainted with, so it probably comes across as you describe to many folks.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

Probably not, to be like the people I mentioned and met you almost have to try to be as disinterested as possible. If you say more than just 1 or 2 words when talking to somebody you're already a lot better.