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Ugh, I hate the lie we've promoted for decades that "you can be anything!" and "you're all special!". No, we can't all be anything we want. I'll never be a rock star, I'll never be a great athlete, etc. And we aren't all special, we are more alike than we may care to admit.
Your specific issues may be due to unrealistic expectations. Do you hate jobs in general due to being on a schedule all the time? Should you have your own business? Look at what you choose in other people, what you look for may need to change since it has a bad track record. Look at your own behavior too, are you self sabotaging? Do you have bad traits like a short temper? As far as a house that has so many variables like where you live may just be too expensive, need to look harder for smaller and older homes in your price range, etc.
As far as the job goes, I just meant that my interests are more aligned with scientific research/discovery but that I'm in no way shape or form a "scientist." I'm nowhere near smart enough for that. Other than that I do like fixing things, but I hate driving and I need a schedule. I hated being a service technician never knowing when the day would be over and having to get a call once I got home to go back out.
For the house, it's 100% the area... Houses that are basically twice burned down, glorified sheds, once selling for $60k USD back in 2016 are now $250k+ it's absolute insanity.
Are you qualified to be a technical assistant? You could get involved in a science oriented environment without, say, having a degree in a scientific field. It could be pharmacology, etc.
I'm not sure if I am qualified to do that, but I'd have to look into it. I appreciate the suggestions! Certainly would beat the dead end factory job I have now lol
I agree, I'm not saying anyone should be put down for wanting to try something difficult but that they should be told of the odds of success. Maybe encourage them to put their effort into something more achievable. Everyone should be allowed to try of course, no one has good odds for becoming famous/successful but inevitably some people will be