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[–] [email protected] 137 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

Well when men keep hearing “don’t approach us”, we shouldn’t be shocked when men don’t approach people.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

At the same time, lots of men are really shitty when they "approach" women.

"Don't approach us" is a response to men's behaviour, not the other way around.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

So yeah don't approach women, got it.

[–] [email protected] -5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Very incel-y, but sure.

Or, you could take it as a statement with the subtext that it clearly has, which is "dont approach us if youre going to be an asshole."

If you would rather stew in bitterness than adjust to the above, the first option is likely better for everyone.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I think if women meant that they would say it instead of "never approach women"

Blaming men for listening to women is some new level of crazy

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Your inability to understand nuance might be part of the problem. Having to explain every single exception spelled out literally takes too long to get the guy acting creepy away from them.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You haven't explained anything, you just keep shitting out the same response hoping you'll shame me into going away.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Yeah, because you're drowning in self-pity instead of understanding that men are the problem in the vast majority of cases. You're bitching around instead, that's typical incel behavior.

You can go up to a woman and flirt with her - just don't be an asshole and accept a "no" without crying or further harassing her ;) It's really not hard. Most appreciate it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago)
[–] [email protected] -2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

So option 1 I guess.

Way to be mad at 4 billion people because you dont want to be a decent human being.

[–] [email protected] 54 points 2 days ago (3 children)
[–] [email protected] 47 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Step 2 - don't be unattractive.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

I'm at 0/2 so far are there any more steps?

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 day ago

Get a dog or cat or both.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

Step 3 - Repeat Step 1.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Just be funny and not a piece of shit. My wife is so gorgeous, people immediately know I have a good sense of humor and I’m supportive. I’m certainly not rich.

Granted, this is not a good approach for the apps. You need to be able to sell yourself in person. Best dating strategy in this case is making many friends, and some of them will be charmed into attraction. If I were dating, speed dating would probably be workable for this approach.

[–] [email protected] -4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

If there is one thing the internet has overwhelmingly seceded at it's convincing people that looks are absolutely everything. A lot of people I know tend to take their dating app experience as solid evidence of their romantic inaptitude. Even when it's all too well known they are scams designed to keep you on their platform for as long as possible.

I know that preaching about stepping up to women may feel like the same way as saying: "Just be attractive, bro." And if it does, to that I say: Do it and practise it for the sake of it. "That looks like a nice person, let's find out what they're about, for no damn reason at all."

Anyway, my two cents. And if it helps whenever you're scared of striking up a conversation just keep in mind: "The alternative is dating apps."