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If the guy really is your friend, ask him bluntly. Don't tiptoe around the topic.
If he is a fascist and you don't want to be a sympathetiser your options are quite limited.
Again don't use colloquialisms, or soft language.
Honestly, part of the problem with the current crop of right wing assholes, is that a lot of them are so fucking brainwashed that they don't even realize that what they're supporting is just outright fascist/Nazi bullshit, so if you ask them point-blank "Are you a Nazi/fascist" they're going to answer "no" and truly believe that, even as they're supporting rounding up immigrants into concentration camps and "ironically" making Nazi salutes.
They have absolutely mastered 1984-style doublethink and duckspeak. They'll prattle on about being free speech absolutists while wanting to remove books about trans people from libraries or banning people with different opinions from their social media sites. They'll talk about being fiscally conservative while absolutely fucking the economy. They'll rant about draining the swamp and eliminating the deep state while they give some unelected goon unprecedented power to do whatever the hell he wants in the government with no consequences.
And they see absolutely no contradictions there.
So you kind of have to play fucking word games with them if you want to actually sus out what their actual thoughts are.
This is so true, and why I posted this video to help us understand it. I went through this with a family member and it’s exhausting.
I'm so sad, bro. He's coming over in an hour, and I'm so sad to cut him loose.
Convincing someone that they hold illogical positions takes time. If they value your friendship, then they should respect your feelings and at least be open to the conversation. It took me years to deprogram my mother. It took patience and a lot of compassion to slowly change her mind. If he is amicable, it may not be a lost cause. Eventually, Musk’s actions and peer pressure from the public may bring him around. It can happen.
That being said, if he harbors white supremacist views and is uncompromising, it might be best to excise that toxicity from your life. Only you know the contextual reality of this situation. Can his mind be changed? Or is this a lost cause?
If it’s the latter, be compassionate and let them know that you will always be available if they are willing to change their mind.
The thing is I am not trying to change him at all. I just want to do the right thing, and it just seems odd to me that someone would have these beliefs.
You know what is best for you. Good luck.
Thanks, friend.
Good luck.