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[–] [email protected] 17 points 18 hours ago (4 children)

That it doesn't feel like a culture at all, that you have to adopt. There's genuine discussion, not just a few top meme-comments and a sea of ignored participation.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 hours ago

you have to adopt

I'm not ready for kids.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

That it doesn’t feel like a culture at all, that you have to adopt. There’s genuine discussion,

[–] [email protected] 7 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

I disagree. It's more likely that your instance's culture happens to largely match what you feel internt culture should be, or at least what you on some leve have already been accultrated to so there is no friction.

One thing that is noticeable is that each instance seems to have a distinct local culture. It's not a great difference, but it is noticeable. It reminds me of the difference between the cultures of the town I grew up in (a decaying community in the rust belt where hope goes to die) and my current town (the sort of farm town that has a holiday celebrating corn).

[–] [email protected] 5 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Blahaj and dbzer0 are my favorite instances.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 hours ago

Same here. I'm mainly on dbzer0 because I like piracy and also like having limited interaction with Hexbear people.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Topic is about Lemmy as a whole, and I'm responding with my impression of that. Your re-interpretation of my impression doesn't really make sense to me. I'm sure others have different experiences with their own usage of Lemmy but mine does not revolve around my instance enough for me to even form an impression of it. It certainly doesn't dominate my user experience.

I do appreciate the responses here hinting that I'm wrong about my experience on Lemmy but I had a 13 year old Reddit account that I nuked after the API debacle and I remember the monoculture that developed. Lemmy is not Reddit even if a few instances have their own subcultures. Doesn't invalidate my impression.

Thanks for pointing out how my opinion is wrong though.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 hours ago

I think the other person that commented is having a worse experience because they are on lemmy.world lol. I didn't realize how bad the trolls were on that instance was until I hopped to dbzer0.

I remember how reddit was. I stopped using it as a social media around 2015ish, around the time I stopped using Twitter. This is better. I was trying to disagree on why this feels better, not telling you that your opinion is wrong.