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How do I help my neighbor feel more comfortable asking for help? (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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My neighbor is in her 70s. I'm in my late 20s and live in the apartment upstairs from her, so when it snows I like to help clean off her car/shovel out her parking spot. Today she tried to pay me after I helped her. I don't want to accept the money, but want her to still feel comfortable asking for help/not feel like she's taking advantage of me. How should I go about this? Maybe ask her for something small so she feels like she's helping me too? It's never any trouble helping her with the snow removal, it never takes more than half an hour

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I totally get that, but I know my neighbor has had a few falls this year and after a recent surgery isn't supposed to do much physical activity while she's recovering. She's mentioned to me in the past that she struggles with this sort of thing, and she had a falling out with the friend that used to do it for her

[–] [email protected] 1 points 12 hours ago

Excellent. Carry on helping! Money makes everything awkward though, and some of the suggestions here about finding something she could do for you are great. Me, I'd knit you a pair of socks, bless your heart.