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How would you process the fact that a new friend of yours is a cop? (USA) (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 weeks ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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One of my new friends is/was a cop. Just found out about it. I genuinely believe ACAB, and this news has me conflicted because my new friend seems really cool and super nice. I don't know him super well yet, though. He's a big part of this new friend group and I don't know how to process this and how to deal with the fact he's a cop.

I don't want to look past the fact he's a cop, but I want to stay his friend and stay in this friend group.

Any advice for dealing with this shit?

I can't talk to my therapist about it until Thursday.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

If you didn't think people can change, you probably wouldn't spend as much time arguing with people on the internet as you do. Not really much point in doing that since you're not going to change their minds after all.

But even if you genuinely don't think people are capable of improvement, I think it would still be worthwhile in a "know your enemy" sort of way.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Yeah just keep getting to know your enemy. That is super effective way to deal with them. Kill them with kindness as it were lol while they kill you with rocks. Worry not I'm sure in 3 days you'll rise again.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

My dude, what the actual fuck are you on about?

"Know your enemy" isn't a saying about peaceful turn-the-other-cheek, love-thy-neighbor, forgiveness bullshit

It's about knowing how and why they fight so you know how to defeat them.

You can't and won't win over every individual Nazi or klansman and make them see the light, but each one you do is one less enemy on their side and one more ally on yours, and my talking to them you get a better understanding on how to beat them.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 weeks ago

Sure buddy sure. As Elvis put it." A little bit less conversation a little more action please..." Ya dig?