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Have you ever questioned your sexuality? (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 weeks ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I’m a man. Only ever dated, been attracted to women. Recently I met this guy and I’m having weird feelings. I can’t quite tell if I’m attracted to him as a person or just like the way he treats me; nonetheless something makes me want to treat him differently than any other guys - the way I would a girl I suppose. My friends say I might be attracted to femininity in general regardless of gender and that’s why I feel this way, and the reason why it hasn’t surfaced until now is because I haven’t yet met a guy to tick those boxes. Wondering if anyone has been through something similar.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 weeks ago

Yeah, I did for a long time in my late teens. I thought I was attracted to girls because that was the 'default'. But the second dating a guy became an option, I realised that the thought of it made me way more excited. I was totally in denial before that too - like I'd look at fetish porn with male actors and think 'oh I'm just interested in this fetish, the gender isn't important here'. Nope, I like guys.

I'd say that I'm more attracted to feminine looking guys. I guess if you're interested in exploring these feelings there's no harm in asking this guy how they feel and see where things go.