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[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I mean, looking like you know what you're doing, looking confident doesn't mean you have to dress plain.

Also I am sure gym bros will complement you on your body. Kind of like how as a straight man I only get compliments on my facial hair from other men. Look for validation from your friends not randos

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

True, I don't have to dress plain, but if clothes make no difference for her, I just wear what I feel most comfortable in. I know how I react when I see her in yoga pants, and I wish I had the option to affect her similarly through clothing.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

Comfort can be about how you look. I have some clothes that are super comfortable, but if I wore them out in public I would be arrested because I look like a drug dealer. Find something comfy in the way that it reflects how you want to be seen

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Lol no joke, all I get is "nice beard" from other dudes.