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What was your best decision in life? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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For me, it was learning English. Although I do make a few mistakes here and there, I'm mostly perfect on it.

The amount of resources you have access to dramatically increases when you know a universal language. I say dramatically because it made me realize how much my native language lacks when it comes to certain topics. The most obvious one to me was tech and computers. Everybody knows how to use Windows but there are very few resources about stuff beyond Windows. It's actually sad. [insert sad face here]

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 7 months ago (3 children)

Getting a divorce. My life has been better since then, even when I lived in my car.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 7 months ago (1 children)

A “friend” started a company and hired me. It was pretty fun for a year. Then it became pretty bad — real bad. I quit on the spot after a verbal abuse session where I demanded more respect and my “friend” / boss literally said “no.”

It’s been a little over a year since I quit. Lived in my car for some of it, otherwise took odd jobs here and there where I could rent a room temporarily.

I’m at the end of this insane journey — starting a new job in a couple months. It’s been rough but I still think it was the right decision. Curious to see myself in 6 months to a year.

Anyway, felt like this was somewhat similar to your case.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago

It's rough as hell, friend. I'm glad you're seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. With a little hard work and a lot of luck I was able to buy a house a few years after I went through the homelessness thing. I hope the same for you.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Same. I thought life would be worse so I stayed married longer than I should have.

Turns out being unhappily married is far more lonely than being single....by a LOT.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago

Oh hell yes it is. I didn't stay too long (I'm notorious for leaving anything I'm unhappy with) but it was only good for like the first couple of weeks. I honestly should have known better but I was 18.

And for all the folks saying that getting married is the best thing to happen to them, I only have one thing to say: good! I'm glad it's working for you and your spouse!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago

Ditto - divorcing my first wife. Now I'm married to my soulmate and we have an amazing daughter together. Best thing I ever did!