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Lemmy is a nice place if you share the same values, but once your opinion differs even somewhat, you won't have that good of a time.
Yep. No different to Reddit on that. I've posted reasonable comments that were maybe a personal anecdote under someone else's anecdote and I got downvoted and before the pitchforks come out because I mentioned downvoted, I don't care about the points, it's that the comments that seem harmless are being downvoted instead of someone actually saying what's wrong with it. Sometimes I've been an ass and I'll hold my hand up to that and those comments deserve negativity but something that's personal experience that's being shared that gets a negative reaction is shitty. In a recent example I commented under someone on ADHD that I don't like cold leftovers, I've ADHD and I have autistic traits, I would get tested but the waiting list on the NHS would be near a decade and private which I can't afford is no better. I was tested again 7-9 but it was inconclusive at that time my ADHD symptoms were a lot more prominent. I mentioned maybe it's a sensory thing for me as I don't like the texture of cold leftovers and that comment was downvoted. ADHD people can have sensory issues too. Sucks because on the ADHD subreddit I wouldn't have been downvoted and would've had comments in reply that detailed others experiences.
Sorry to hear this.
Ehh. You get used to it when you have ADHD. The irony being that many people with ADHD experience RSD. I liked the Reddit sub as it was always supportive, that was the first time I commented in that ADHD community and I won't again.
Have you considered switching to an instance that disable downotes? https://lemmy.blahaj.zone is nice for that
I might move to blahaj. I'm a queer person and the fact it's a queer focused instance that seems to have strict rules about respect seriously appeals plus Lemmy worlds stance and defederating from a few communities over piracy has annoyed me a bit.
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