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How do I stop a crush from developing further? (lemmy.world)

submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I think I got a crush on my dance instructor. Which fucking sucks for all the obvious reasons. Normally I wouldn't be so worried. BUT I JUST HAD A GODDAMN ROMANTIC DREAM ABOUT HER. Seriously I just woke up from a dream about her confessing her love to me and me eagerly doing the same about her.

So how do you stop a crush from developing further? Because this is a well from which only disappointment may be drawn.

Edit: I am single btw.

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 9 months ago (2 children)

This made me sad to the core. What's the point of life

[–] [email protected] 25 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I'm sorry if I bummed you out! For what it's worth, I think you're misreading this!

This exercise isn't supposed to reflect an inevitability to relationships becoming unfulfilling. It's just a tool to recover the ability to see people in a balanced and realistic way instead of through the uncontrollably lens of puppy love.

I'm in a long term relationship, well past the point of early infatuation, and I can tell you that that feeling is replaced by a different kind of love that I enjoy just as much. Long term relationships shouldn't be scary, they're wonderful. But when you're smitten, simulating the evolution in how you feel about someone as you get to know them is just a way to remove the effects of a crush.

Don't be sad! Long term relationships with a person you like are wonderful.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

Don’t be sad! Long term relationships with a person you like are wonderful.

Joke's on you; I don't have those.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

To let go. Clinging is the source of all suffering.