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[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 weeks ago

that's what he named his son

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Parts of it remain indecipherable without the social context, however, as the writer explicitly assumes a mutual knowledge of some set of unspecified rules.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

The next generation could go down. The PS3 was crazy expensive, and then the PS4 cost significantly less than the PS3 had. So, there's precedent. Adjusted for inflation, the ps3 was even more expensive than the ps5 pro.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 2 months ago (3 children)

I feel like this pattern of people lying to doctors and doctors adjusting things to account for it really messes with rigorously honest people.

A little while back I was reading how when they ask you how much pain you're in, with 10 being the most pain imaginable, they pretty routinely have people calmly say "12". So, if you're actually using the scale where you've probably never experienced more than a 9 and would be sobbing at an 8, so you say 7, they automatically assume you're in basically no pain because you said less than 10.

Kind of wish we could just speak accurately and take each other literally instead of playing games where we try to figure out exactly what lie to tell to convey the truth, but I guess that's not how most people are wired.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 2 months ago

this was in 2015 btw
not that it's super important, just in case someone reads it as a contemporary news headline rather than fun historical trivia

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 months ago

Every time I hear this observation, I automatically hear Jim Carrey's voice in my head saying "It's dead people laughing! Those people are dead!"

I guess he said it in the 1999 movie Man On The Moon and the line has somehow been permanently lodged in the back of my brain for the last 25 years

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

Sweet vegetables. Anything that is unambiguously a savory main course plant, but has some sugariness to it. Peas, carrots, sweet potatoes, turnips, beets, etc. I can eat them, they're just even more work than most food (I agree with the other commenter who said that food in general is just a chore like brushing your teeth, although really good food is basically a neutral experience for me, where the enjoyment is about worth the effort)

Oh I guess now that I think about it maybe there are exceptions, like I think a lot of people would consider red onions sweet but I am fine with those. I think it needs some sourness or sharpness to offset the sweetness, the problem is if it's just sweet + savory and not much else.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

Heh, I just posted a comment without reading the others first, in which I said something very similar about taking a long time to "come up with 2 sentences". I was briefly wondering whether to write "two" or "2", so it's funny seeing the same wording pop up in another comment.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

Lol, the timing of this is pretty crazy. Today is a big milestone birthday for my brother, and texting him some birthday wishes is my major task for the day (you know, the thing where, as long as I do that, I have completed today, even though there are other things I will hopefully be able to do, but might not because the main task might take all my energy).

We live pretty far apart, and I don't have too clear an idea of his current interests, and his job doesn't leave him with a lot of spare time. Usually I buy him a digital gift of some kind (ebook, switch game I think he'd like, etc) and send a happy birthday email that's like 2 sentences that I spend all day composing in my head. I haven't figured out what to get him this year, but also, for my birthday earlier this year he just texted me instead of buying me a steam game I'll never play, so I'm sort of taking that as a signal that it's okay for me to do the same (I'm relieved, rather than offended - I'm totally fine with not receiving any particular birthday greeting or gift myself). I ran that idea by my NT mom, and she agreed that that sounds absolutely fine.

So I guess I'm about to text him something like "Happy xth birthday! Hope you're having a great day! Any big plans to celebrate the milestone?" And then have a brief back and forth on the basis of his response. "About to" here meaning in the next few hours I guess.

On the topic in general, I run into this with Christmas presents as well, who to get presents for at in-person gatherings of various sizes, or for close family that live far away, etc, and what to give them.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I only know his most mainstream stuff, but his part of the roast of Bob Saget was basically him bombing on purpose. I'm pretty sure he was just bombing hard because he knew his fellow comedians would love it, and he didn't care one way or another about the general audience, although the general audience ended up loving it too.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (5 children)

It means the overall death rate in the sample group was decreased substantially. The number of people who survived because they didn't get lung cancer or blood clots was so large that it had a noticeable impact on the number of total survivors, even when you include death by bus. This is a useful measure for a couple of reasons. One, it accounts for the prevalence of the disease being prevented - cutting all pork from your diet prevents 100% of deaths by trichinosis, which accounts for like 0.00001% of deaths from all causes (completely made up numbers and example, without consulting any sources). Two, it could account for net change in survival, for a treatment or behavior that has both positive and negative effects - giving radiation therapy indiscriminately to everyone with any kind of lump might decrease rate of dying from breast cancer, but increase death "from all causes" because it causes more problems than it solves.

I guess an additional way it might be useful is if we don't yet have data on the exact mechanisms by which the treatment helps or what exactly its preventing - all we know is that we gave group A the treatment and not group B, and after 20 years there were a lot more people alive in group A, but we haven't yet found a pattern in which causes of death were most affected and how.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago

what if spider vaginas had emotions

 

Am I crazy to assume that, if I tell one person but don't specify any particular privacy settings, they would leave it to me to decide when I disclose it to others?

I guess I should get specific here. I was officially diagnosed a couple of weeks ago, as having autism spectrum disorder level 1. I have so far only told my mom, who I live with, and my best friend, who I suspect is also autistic. Today, I overheard my mom talking loudly on a video call to my brother and his wife, catching up and sharing their latest news. Apparently her latest news included the fact that I have been diagnosed with ASD. I hadn't yet decided how to go about having that conversation with my brother, and now I'm pretty upset that I don't get to make that decision. While I'm venting, she also mentioned that I've been less conversational lately, which she attributes to my diagnosis and to me no longer wanting to make the effort necessary to talk to neurotypical people (in reality, my chronic fatigue has been playing up lately, which always leaves me with less energy for conversation - she knows my chronic fatigue has been playing up lately, but apparently thinks I'm just choosing not to bother).

Am I crazy to think she was way out of line to share my diagnosis with someone without running it by me?

I'm also not sure how to move forward with this information in any way without it seeming like I was eavesdropping - which I wasn't intentionally doing, she was in the living room / kitchen area, I was heading down there to make myself a cup of tea (which I do every night at that time, in the room that she was talking in) and froze halfway down the hallway when I heard her sharing my confidential information. I didn't know how to deal with the situation so I just stood there for a bit and then returned to my room without making the cup of tea. If she had directly told me that she had told my brother about my diagnosis, or that she was bothered by me being less conversational, it would give me an opportunity to provide input on these matters, but as it is I don't feel comfortable raising the subject, or noticeably increasing my level of masking (to accomodate her apparent discomfort with me not doing so), without the eavesdropping issue potentially becoming part of the conversation and complicating matters.

I'm also bothered because I have a tradition of once a year going to stay with my best friend for a while, and typically stop off with my brother for a few days when I pass through his city. Last year unexpected travel complications left me burnt out, so when I made the bookings a couple of months back for this year's trip, I made it as simple as possible, including skipping the stay with my brother. I haven't yet told him, and now I'm worried that he's going to take it as me no longer socializing with neurotypical family members (even though the arrangement was made before my diagnosis). The whole thing is complicated and no longer under my control because my mother decided to share my diagnosis and her thoughts about my behavior behind my back.

Anyway, I guess I'm venting, and looking for input on whether this is as infuriating as it seems, and maybe advice on how to approach the situation.

 

Was amused by this showing up fairly deep in the results on a search for "autism late assessment percent". Not sure what caused it, when I google "autism spectrum" the wikipedia result doesn't look like this.

Tangentially related - the search was because I'd seen someone claim that only 2% of people who go in for late assessment end up not being positively diagnosed, and was trying to find a source. Didn't find anything one way or another before being distracted by this (and by figuring out how to screenshot on my phone). So I welcome any citations people have relevant to my original search. Or just be amused by autistic google/wiki, that's fine too 🙂

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