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'Unskippable' ads to feature on Facebook and Instagram in c/[email protected]
The Divine Dick in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 45 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (3 children)

In mormonism if you don't do their special ceremonies and have multiple wives, you lose your dick for eternity. I learned that in Sunday school when I was 12 lol.

Loops finally sent out emails: I have early access in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago

I'm not sure popular is the biggest goal right now. It would definitely be nice for federated platforms to gain a bigger user base, but while the tools are growing, it's really inspiring just to think that people are willing to invest the (low or no profit) time and energy into making the internet a nicer place.

Toxic X users sabotage Community Notes that could derail disinfo, report says in c/[email protected]
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[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 weeks ago (7 children)

That's kind of the idea. I miss the originality of old systems, but it seems like a lot of developers are prioritizing consistency and learnability for the sake of accessibility.

Lemmy should have a community called lemmy_guess in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Just made it!

[email protected]

Lemmy should have a community called lemmy_guess in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 22 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Done.

[email protected]

Mail addressed to Mr. and Mrs. (husbands name) in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 49 points 3 weeks ago

My grandma (decades ago) always went the other way, she wrote "Mr. Sarah Smith" for my grandpa's name. Feminist icon.

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What subscription services do you actually pay for and get value from? (lemy.lol)
 

I'm usually against subscription services, but there are a few I use that I think provide enough value to justify the cost. Are there subscriptions you think are worth the money for you?

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Obvious bias in AI-generated content might actually be useful (if used wisely) (lemy.lol)
 

Of course, not in a "we should generate and spread racist content" kind of way. But sometimes results are a caricature of all the stuff AI has ingested, so if its output is obviously biased, it might be a good indicator of particular ways people tend to be biased.

For example, if all of the AI-generated images for "doctor" are men, it's pretty clear the source content is biased to indicate that doctors are/should be men. It would be a lot harder to look up all of the internet's images of "doctor" to check for bias. There are probably a lot more nuanced cases where AI-generated content can make bias more apparent.

What’s your “I can’t believe other people don’t do this” hack? in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

More than this it's just a good way to build regular hand washing into a routine. You already use a restroom a few times a day at fairly regular intervals, so you only have a few hours worth of microbes on your hands at a time.

What does this mean on Google Maps? in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 months ago

"We make more money from cars. We half assed the walking instructions. Good luck and fuck you."

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Tortilla rule (lemy.lol)
 
I was made a humerous man...hopefully this doesn't send me south.. in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

I was mormon. Thankfully my parents paid to traffic me, so I could afford to go to college and cut them off relatively soon after I got home.

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YSK how to spot Love Bombing (lemy.lol)
submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
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Why YSK: some very dangerous people and organizations use love bombing as a strategy to manipulate and recruit people. Love bombing is often an early warning sign for a traumatizing relationship, so it's helpful to be able to spot the signs.

What it Is

Essentially, it's when someone showers you with love and attention. It often includes a lot of reassurance that you belong with someone or in a group. It can include gifts, flattery, praise, and it usually includes a lot of excitement about your future together or with a group.

The catch is that the love bomb goes away, and you become devalued after the love bomb. This is usually followed by a "discard phase", where if you try to confront the behavior, you are rejected and made to feel at fault. After you've become upset by this, they will often start the cycle again to keep your loyalty.

There are some really key warning signs to look out for:

  1. They give you gifts, especially random gifts
  2. They want all of your attention
  3. They're desperate for commitment from you
  4. You feel pressure to not tell them no
  5. They constantly talk about how much they love you, how special you are, etc.
  6. You feel flattered but uneasy around them
  7. They want to know a lot about you very quickly
  8. They emphasize how much better everything is when you are with them

Where can I spot it?

Love bombing is very common in abusive and manipulative relationships. It's also often noticeable in cult recruiting, when members are trained to shower you with love and affection.

What can I do about it?

It can be good to seek help from a mental health professional if you're already hurt from the effects of love bombing. If you're in crisis, consider contacting a local crisis or emergency line.

If you notice signs of love bombing, there are some strategies that often work to keep people safe:

  • set firm boundaries early
  • stay grounded (i.e., take their praise with a grain of salt)
  • ask, "what might they want from this interaction?"
  • end a relationship if it's not working
  • give as little information out as possible at the start of a relationship
  • ask an objective 3rd party how they feel about your relationship with this person or group

More resources

https://health.clevelandclinic.org/love-bombing https://www.choosingtherapy.com/love-bombing/

I was made a humerous man...hopefully this doesn't send me south.. in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 41 points 3 months ago (3 children)

I was threatened by local leaders and family if I didn't go on a 2 year mission in another country, then when I got there, they:

  • took my passport immediately and locked it in a building I couldn't access
  • required 12 to 16 hours of work a day, with discipline if productivity dropped
  • refused to provide adequate food or medical care
  • restricted my communication with my family
  • assigned me a companion to surveil me 24/7 and report disobedience to leadership (and assigned me to surveil someone else)
  • disciplined me when I was physically and sexually assaulted by other missionaries

I didn't want to call it trafficking for a long time. I figured maybe God just had a weird way of doing things. But my spouse works at a recovery center for survivors of violence (including trafficking) and helped me realize that's what it was.

A pretty big misconception is that trafficking has to look like selling slaves, and I agree that's an egregious thing, but it can be a lot more broad than that.

There are a lot of resources at https://humantraffickinghotline.org/en if you're curious. My mission experience checked just about every box for labor trafficking, and I've heard very similar stories from a lot of other people who have been missionaries.

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Zoom exec calls in-office work mandate a ‘success’ — despite working remotely himself (www.kron4.com)
 

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/17585420

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What do I give my bad dad for father's day? (lemy.lol)
 

So. Without trauma dumping, I'll simply say my dad is a bad dad. What's a father's day gift that says "you're dead to me, but I'm still doing things to keep drama at bay"?

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