Rakqoi

joined 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

I'm really happy it's working out for you! I'm not saying that all existing partnerships opening to polyamory are doomed to fail or are inferior in any way, just that from what I've seen they're much harder to pull off, possibly because people tend to open relationships for the wrong reasons. But when it does work out and everyone involved is entirely on board and is willing to put in the work, they can absolutely be beautiful and healthy relationships.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I'm polyamorous myself, with a girlfriend of about 18 months and another of nearly a year. Both my relationships are stable and very fulfilling, and also relaxed and laid-back. It takes more communication to have it work but for me I can't even imagine living any other way, polyamory feels right for me and me and my partners are happier than we've ever been.

Granted, my relationships aren't a case of opening an existing partnership, but rather I talked about the fact that I'm polyamorous to each partner very early on before we even considered a relationship. Most drama I've seen in polyamory comes from one partner in a monogamous pair wanting "more" and so the decision is pretty one sided, and neither is willing to really put in the work and communication that healthy polyamory requires. Every polyamorous person I know that started their relationships as polyamorous is healthy and happy in their partnerships.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago

I chose Garuda for this reason and I love it. the automatic snapshots have saved me several times, plus I like all the built-in tools for configuring a ton of things that I'd have no idea how to configure otherwise. The preinstalled software is also super useful. The only thing I didn't like about it is the gaudy default theme but that's easy to change.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago

There is/was a fan made version of this in development! I don't know the status of it currently, and I heard that development was rocky for a while.. and they haven't posted on the blog since 2020. But take a look anyway!

https://seaofgreed.com/