I've never been an incel but I've always sympathised because I feel like I easily could have become one. Seeing a therapist and learning the basics of Cognitive Bias Therapy is what I attribute to helping me out of a lot of those 'thought loops'.
It's nice hearing stories about people who've escaped it.
This is all just semantics and how the word 'opposite' can be applied in different ways. I wouldn't spend too much time on this.