HexesofVexes

It's always about Ads...

Oh, they start off as unobtrusive; maybe a little banner that shows when the app is opening, or a written mention with a link.

But, this doesn't generate much revenue. Next the banner persists, and suddenly a video plays. Just one, just once.

Eventually you open the app to pop up banners and autoplay videos, and wonder where the app is. Every line you cross with adverts makes the next line easier to cross.

1. Employment - you currently have 0 social encumbrance. It's a good time to job hop and move around, you meet a lot of people and learn a lot of social cues. Also better job gives more money for gaming.

2. Stop looking; the dating world post 30 is absolutely horrific, and it will destroy your mental health. The people in there are not all that bad, but the online dating scene brings out the worst in everyone. Time to explore the wilds and visit local cafes (worst comes to worst, you get good tea/coffee).

3. The type of people you meet varies with the type of game you play. If it has "more tits than a birdwatcher's photobook", you're not going to meet many women. If it's a wholesome online farming sim that ratio changes, but it's still rough as a guy. Games are great for meeting people, but not for meeting lovers.

4. At the end of the day, when the loneliness bites hard, don't be afraid to call a hotline for help.

5. Ok, ready for the big one? Stop looking for a partner and start looking for friends - the kind of people you can sit in a cafe with, or complain about work with. Guys, girls or those in between; doesn't matter. The thing that helped me most was making a few good friends who I still travel over a hundred miles to meet monthly, and who I game with weekly online.

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Yes and no; I've met some people who were great to date but hell to live with.

A good relationship starts with both people knowing what they want - and continual contact helps determine if the other person is being honest about what they want. Post 35/30, this process is often a lot faster, and dating skill matters less than ability not to annoy the person you're suddenly around 24/7.

If it matches from the start, or a compromise grows, you're in for a winner. Otherwise, back to the sea of the undead you go, no matter how good your dating skill!

Intention and reality are two different things - although I can't say I ever managed casual dating for 2 years! Usually most folks are in a relationship after 1.

I think it goes further than that - post 35 (post 30 really) there is a lot more pressure to shift from casual dating to a relationship at a faster pace.

Life experience talking here too, it isn't just "being upfront", it's also being willing to move at a faster pace.

The real secret to dating after 35 - don't.

Folks are not looking to "date": they're after long term commitment OR quick hook ups. The middle ground really vanishes when you get older!

I read this article title as "Top 11 ways to get your entire IT department to ragequit".

Heh, I did this once - mostly because 10+ PowerPoint animations really chug the university issue laptops, and I was presenting somewhere new (software is not your friend).

It was really 15 slides with about 20 animation steps on each - the students didn't seem to hate seeing a set of fully worked maths problems with colour coding linking parts of the question to the resultant equation.

He's looking up, and seeing the giant rain of sheep labelled "teaching load" and "marking AI generated essays" incoming.

Question sheets in Word - "Hello, and welcome to indent roulette"

Question sheets in LaTeX - "\item{} goes brr"

That's the hottest orb pondering I've ever seen!

Resits... So many resits...

Students who I've never seen before asking how to pass my course.