Text messages and phone calls. I donβt need to see my boomer relatives racist posts.
this post was submitted on 13 Mar 2024
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That was disappointing, when you grow up thinking your parents are progressive and then as old age and its symptoms happen their guards drop and you find out that they always had some racist tendencies. I guess credit to them suppressing them for so long.
In my parents' old age they've gotten more progressive. I reject the notion that people naturally trend towards conservativism as they age... I just think there are a fuckton of entitled "I got mine" boomers.
I recently read an article that claims people become more progressive as they age, but society becomes more progressive faster, so it just seems like they become conservative.
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I am originally from the south but my mother joined the Air Force and we moved away after she divorced my dad when I was very young. Iβm so glad that I was able to experience life outside of that racist bubble. Iβm not sure how I would have turned out had I grown up there.
Same with me. Itβs weird, during the end of the Mayan calendar my grandparents asked my dad to leave his wife and two kids to go into their bunker to prepare to fight off the minorities that all follow the Antichrist during the end times. The reason we were not invited to their crusade was my mom voted Democrat, and Jesus would not give souls to children who would live to see the end times as that would be to cruel for their god. He told them hell no. And it was weeks before they resurfaced again and pretended nothing ever happened. Could i have been conditioned thus if my dad donβt join the NAVY? Scary thought.
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i really must be lucky because my mum and dad are as liberal and accepting as can be. i guess i was just lucky to grow up in massachusetts and attend a pretty liberal methodist church. my pastor growing up even hand wrote me a letter when i came out as trans and apologised for how some of the church needs to change.
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I'm the opposite. I don't need to see my Gen Z relatives desperate pleas for attention.
My boomer relatives are relatively liberal and don't feel the need to share more than the vacation they're on, the cocktail they're drinking, or their high score on candy crush.
Edit: I assume the downvotes are from butthurt Gen Zers. I don't mean to generalize, I can't imagine anyone doing that when discussing an entire generation, I'm simply offering my own personal experience. When my cousin is posting photos of himself in a banana hammock and my sister is posting daily cringe videos of her words of "advice", AND IG keeps trying to show me this because the algorithm is trash, this keeps me off social media. Right, I should just not "follow" my relatives. Or, I could just stay away entirely. It's fine.
Seriously, every time I see stuff like this, I just wonder if people have completely forgotten that you can text and call your family and friends.
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There are also these crazy things called SMS and phone calls
I don't. They have my phone number. They can text or call.
Same. I have no desire to be informed every time someone takes a shit, or does something AmaZIng!
Send me a text or call me. The family and friends I want to talk to will make an effort. The rest I don't really need to know about.
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I know where they live and have their phone number
I don't use social media to stay in contact with family; I use various messaging/call technologies.
SMS and telephone and IRL.
I haven't used Facebook for over ten years. I was using Instagram for a while but the algorithm makes using it utterly pointless.
Do you really need to be on top of everyone all the time? Give your relationships room to breathe. Allow yourself to have engaging conversations with people to catch up and get to know them and the things that matter most to them. Allow yourself the liberty of not knowing the most ridiculous crap that they choose to share with the world.
Edit: Oh! I have a friend who I turned on to GroupMe a long time ago. He and his family still use it regularly. So, if you're looking for something, give that a look.
Theyβve been informed that if theyβd like me to know something, theyβll have to tell me. As it turns out, the phone works as a phone too!
Seriously, has everyone forgotten what a "phone" is? I mean I have trouble hearing and don't like to hold long conversations on the phone, but it's still one of the quickest ways to get in touch with someone.
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I donβt use any social media. I give my phone number to family members. They can call/text if they want to reach me.
Texting?? I also use this technological innovation called living with your parents.
Signal
You feel like you can't disconnect from these things, but you can. Group text plus family learn quickly that you're outside of social media. They learn to deliberately send photos or call and if your spouse is more social, they become the conduit for "news" and it's filtered down to you when important
Simple. My sister keeps in touch with the family via Facebook and I keep in touch with her by phone. π
I dont
I use this alien technology called a phone.
I call them
Signal for whole family chat; phone and SMS variously; discord for some
None, I like it that way. I also don"t pick up the phone when they call.
I have a few friends though, we Signal.
Signal
Signal groups, works great
Not social media, just Signal. I was able to convince them to use Signal even just for our own family group chats.
I just text and email, also actual mail.
Giant group texts. One has over 30 people, mostly used for baby/marriage announcements. Then a bunch of other group texts for different social groups (stoners, siblings, camping, etc).
They can suck my balls on WhatsApp
Why would I stay in touch with family? Those people suck.
Telegram group chats. It's perfect.
If my family isn't on Steam Chat, then we don't speak.
a phone number
I don't use social media to stay connected with family. I lift up the phone, go visit, or if we need to communicate online, I have an XMPP server for the family with end to end encryption. Can share pictures, text, and can even do video calls if need be, send files, and so on.
Don't see the need to involve any kind of social media.
Bold of you to assume that I have family that I want to keep in touch with. Entire family tree is twisted and gnarled, and full of white-trash sociopaths and narcissists.
For the one remaining person I might keep in touch with, itβs a text message at holidays.
i pick up my phone and call em....
WhatsApp. I'd prefer something not owned by Meta, but tech supporting my parents already costs me enough time without adding extra apps to the mix and all their other contacts use it.
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