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[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago

It varies mostly on the subject and situation. Outside of with a few people and a few situations I won’t hesitate to lie if it serves my needs more than the truth and I think I can get away with it.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago

Like, verbally or in bed?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Everyday whenever I interact with a stranger and they ask "How are you?".

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

That’s not really a lie. It’s a symbolic communication, not a literal one.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago

Yes, and I was answering in jest. Guess I need to put an /s.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago

This comment is a lie.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago

On a daily basis? 99% of the time it is to myself. Now I just thought „I will write a meaningful and a super honest answer for a cool, self-reflection provoking question”. Yet, here we are. Any second now, my comment is almost finished and yet, none of that happens. I almost did it tho! Oh, another one, there, just there..

More seriously, lying mostly just costs too much energy. And more often than not, too much time. At least, this is how I feel about it now. I’ve often heard “fuck, you are really a straight shooter / unapologetically honest, ain’t ya?”. One person will enjoy and like that, someone else would love to (very slowly) burn me for it — both sides have their solid / valid reasons.

The best thing, I would like to get a better grasp on is using the blunt version versus cozy version — I often get it quite right but there is definitely plenty of room for improvement.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago

I lie a ton, but it's dependent on the audience. There are a lot of people (largely work related) I don't feel like sharing details of my life with so I omit them or simplify them to the point of inaccuracy.

With people I actually know and like I lie very little if at all. It's mostly for convenience and ease.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago

Maybe once or twice a week.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago

I never lie. Not ever.

Kolanaki's nose begins to stretch

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago

Basically never.

I was convinced that not lying is the way to go about 4 or 5 years ago and I've pretty much stuck with that ever since. I can only remember telling one lie during that time and even that was more of a reflex and totally unecessary (told to a beggar that I didn't have cash even though I did) This doesn't obviously mean that I always tell everything that's on my mind or that I don't omit information. I try an be diplomatic about it but the rule I try to follow is that I don't say things I know not to be true.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Oh man, I never thought there was another person who would never lie about anything, ever, about anything. Especially on the Internet.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I think you have 2 replies here that went to the wrong place - instead of to the person you likely aimed them at, they are to yourself. I just thought that you might like to know!:-)

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago

Do you not reply to yourself, in your head?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 8 months ago

Of course it is. It's a need to belong, to fit in, to feel a part of the group. It's written into your genes.

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