Asklemmy

Not to the point of crying, but I've got really shaken by the deaths of strangers and public figures before. In general, any death moves me, it's a very natural and human reaction. Unfortunately, some farther ones or those that happen often enough to get me numb don't strike me as much.

An example of a fairly recent death that shook me and large amount of people too, was the death of Rick May, an immensely talented actor, drama teacher and more, that voiced the character "Soldier" in Team Fortress 2. His iconic and charismatic performance for that role is just indescribable, and a significant part of what made the character, and by extension the game, so good. His loss was so big that Valve added an in-game memorial statue, so that players could pay their respects. The fan community really grieved together. He passed away due to Covid-19 complications in 2020 at 79 years of age.

Nah, but a couple surprised me with how much they saddened me because I'd always thought it was kind of stupid to get genuinely upset about the deaths of celebrities you don't know. Sometimes your cognitive opinions take a backseat without your permission and you just feel actually mournful about someone who has so little direct connection and who's worldly contributions are almost always in the entertainment space. For me that was David Bowie and Trevor Moore. Both of these surprised me because it's not like I was a hardcore David Bowie fan so it didn't feel like that death should have hit me particularly hard and Trevor, I still can't figure out why that'd upset me so much. I mean I loved his sketch comedy but I'd largely forgotten about him at the time, I think it might have something to do with him being so young as well as all the laughs he'd given us.

I was particularly upset by Ray Stevenson’s passing

Fairly early on in the COVID days, it got Adam Schlesinger. To this day, it's the one celebrity death that felt personal to me.

For those who don't recognize the name, Adam was one half of the songwriting duo in Fountains of Wayne. Who you know best, of course, for "Stacy's Mom." God, their songwriting was sublime though. And then Adam did "That Thing You Do", Ivy, Tinted Windows, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend and a ton of other stuff.

Maybe it's partly the collective trauma of the pandemic, but his death still hurts.

Celebrities, no. Pets, definitely.

I still get choked up over Kevin Conroy (THE Batman voice from like 1990-2022 when he died, and even a few things after), but I don't think I actually cried about it.

Same with Chance Perdomo who was Ambrose from Chilling Adventures of Sabrina, and Andre from Gen V. He just had a presence and charisma to him that I really liked. Also Anton Yelchin.

Mac Miller for me. We were the same age and his music resonated with me a lot. I understood the drugs, depression, etc.

For a while, I had thought "I could have been successful like him, if i had applied myself". Not music, but other ways. It had felt like he was everything I could have been.

But then his he died and I realized that I had gotten out of that world (drugs and partying). And that I was the successful one. I had a house, a job I love, a wonderful wife, etc.

I'm not rich. I'm not always happy. I regularly think about my addictions. But Im clean. I'm sober. I'm intelligent. I have a good life.

If I didn't figure out how to step away from that life, Im sure I would have OD'd. Mac's death hit me hard, because I went from "that could have been me" to "that could have been me"

I was pretty fuckin sad when Judy Tenuta passed.

Maybe not full-on "cry" but I have gotten teary-eyed more than a few times over the decades when a favorite (and unarguably world-class) musician dies. Eddie Van Halen, Neil Peart and Jeff Beck come to mind right off the bat

When I was about 17 was looking at several full pages of names of people who died in 9/11 when looking at a news paper and started crying

I cry sometimes when I see what is happening to the people and babies of the world

I cried when those women in Sudan were at a hospital and rebels showed up to rape and murder them then trapped them inside the clinic and burned it down

The world is a sad place with so much need for mourning

Some, here and there. Not really heavy sobbing or anything, because there's no real connection.

I think the two heaviest were Kurt Vonnegut and Kris Kristofferson. Both have been influential on me as a person and a writer.

But the suddenness of Robin Williams and Chester Bennington made both hard in a different way.

You're very accustomed to your world and don't want any discontinuity. Change is depressing because it reveals the impermanence of everything where rather pretend like it isn't. Thats my reason :)

When David Lama, Hans Jörg Auer and Johnathan Rosskelly died in an Avalanche. They were the absolute best of the best in mountaineering, they had everything going for them and then suddenly it was over. I remember how it swept me off my feet and the shockwave it sent through the mountaineering community.

Adam Schlesinger, a likely preventable death in this selfish fucking country. He gave so many beautiful things to the world while he was here.

Gord Downey of the Tragically Hip.

His music was songs of more than one generation of Canadians. I caught the last few songs of the live streamed final concert. I almost missed it because I was on graveyard shift and slept through an alarm.

I caught my favorite song "Ahead by a Century" and since he passed, I haven't been able to listen to that song again. When it comes on the radio I either turn it off or leave the room. It is too sad to hear. It has been harder in the last two years because my sister died of the same brain cancer as him. She played music with a few Canadian bands but never met them.

When I was about 16 I had to make a conscious decision to not allow myself to feel as much towards the terrible things happening in the world. I would get so deep into feeling that it would wreck me for days sometimes. One day I just chose not to care, as if they were made up stories that I didn’t need to pay attention to. It worked but It changed my personality for years until I realized how to balance it, sort of. It still happens sometimes.