Asklemmy

Why are most people here are negative and rude?

Thank you for pointing this out. I found this place as an alternative to Reddit, but whoa, I think the hate for anyone who doesn't join the groupthink is actually worse here than on reddit.

I've actually had posters on here follow me to other communities just to downvote and talk crap about me, even if the community/subject had nothing to with their original beef about me. And they would brag about doing it!

Never had that happen on Reddit! Of course, won't stop me from posting, and I just think it's hilarious. Weird though!

Please also report people being rude, that's a temp ban here.

We're negative doomscrollers, true. But most people seem pretty polite, at least in my experience.

Reddit energy

You'll have to be more specific. I'm not seeing any unusual amount of negativity.

What's that thing about expressing any passion? What do you mean by that?

It’s probably a downstream effect of the souring mood in the United States as the consequences of the current administration and our slide into fascism become increasingly apparent. Can’t speak for the rest of the world, but it’s hard to believe things are getting better out there.

Selection bias mostly, you only remember the negative interactions. I'm new here but I've not run into any particularly negative or rude people so they don't seem super common, nowhere near like reddit.

The Tumblr effect

Thing allows freedom of speech Thing now has "bad apples" Thing either get lobotomized or accomodates with that freedom.

Okay, there are three reasons why this is:

1. Anonymity grants people the ability to be assholes.

2. You've done something or said something that was going to get people riled up over.

3. People from rejected instances, sites .etc come here to carry over their shitty nature.

My theory is that for-profit social media companies push conflict and controversy because it increases “engagement.” So, people are conditioned to be hostile and hiss like a cat at the first sign of disagreement (real or imagined). Lemmy, obviously, has different incentives.

It’s happening on Mastodon and BlueSky too. I try to respond with kindness and sincerity. (I don’t always succeed. I kind of suck at it, to be honest. But if we all even can halfass human decency, it’ll be better than most of the internet.)

i noticed that too. i chalk it up to people are always seeking approval and they want to tell express to everyone how the think and feel in hopes that people will express the same. its not everyone id say at most 30%. also you have to keep in mind that this is where the reddit rejects go (i can say that word because i got banned off of reddit lol).

another user got mad and attacked me for saying "my morality and logic is different" and said nothing about why my differences is bad.

Things are hard out there, and that makes people feel like finding hills to die on. The less stressful life is, the better the discourse, usually.

Totally agree. People here are some of the worst I have ever seen. Like actually worse than Reddit. Easily. Pretty sure most people here are just miserable depressed fucks. Kinda makes sense honestly.